Post # 1
My husband and I are married and going on our 7 year wedding anniversary this year. We currently live in our home state, where we were married years ago. At a beach near us. In a year or two we will most likely be transferring out of state again. I am debating renewing our wedding vows on the beach where we were married again next year. It will be our 8 year wedding anniversary. Just wondering if we should renew while we are at home, near our family and all? I know it isn’t a 10 year wedding anniversary and all, it’s only 8.. It would just be a small renewal on the beach, with our kids and close family, than a nice restaurant afterwards for dinner. What do you ladies think?? Please answer the poll and feel free to comment.
Post # 2
I don’t know, personally I am not a fan of vow renewals unless something dramatic has happened. You don’t have to get married again, you know? Unless you’ve separated and got back together, or if one of you has been very ill and recovered, or if it’s a big anniversary like 20. If you just want to have a fun party to celebrate your anniversary, do that, but call it an anniversary dinner or party, and for goodness’ sake if you’re going to a restaurant do not expect people to pay for themselves. 😛
Post # 3
Jijitattoo: I’m not tacky.. I would never invite our family to a vow renewal and restaurant, and than tell them to pay! We would be paying for the food and all..
Post # 4
I think you should wait for a bigger anniversary. I know it’s still arbitrary, but I think 10 years, 15 years, or 20 years, etc. are better numbers to plan a vow renewal for.
The only reason I’d do one for 8 years was, as a PP said, if you guys had seperated or had some event that required the vows to need to be renewed.
Post # 5
My brother & sister each got married in ’07 and I dunno, it doesn’t seem like that long ago. My sister has mentioned how she would want to do a vow renewal soon. It was only said in passing and I’m sure it’s jealousy bc now it’s my turn to have a wedding. You know your family & relationship but I would think it was attention grabby if my sister did it.
For the record, I know my sister and her jealousy issues. I don’t normally assume people are jealous.
Post # 6
I voted not at all. To me a renewal is something done to something expired or ended. Presumably your marriage has not expired or ended.
I guess I just don’t really see the point. But that being said it’s your money, and if you want to have a party have a party.
Post # 7
I adore vow renewals and have agonized about what’s right for us. After much thought about vow renewals, I came to the philosophy that if the renewal is just the husband and wife, they should do whatever they want whenever they want. But, once guests are involved, then you have to worry about what other people think. (Well, I guess you don’t have to, but I would!) I don’t think we’ll ever have a vow renewal involving guests. It just seems like so many people view vow renewals as attention whore-y. I disagree with this and think it is too harsh of an interpretation, but the reality is that some people think that way and I didn’t want to add stress by worrying about what those people think. So, we will renew our vows every few years, but I want it to be just the two of us. Anniversary parties are different, people seem to respect those more, but I think the etiquette is that they are for major anniversaries like the 10th or 20th. So, that is what I would suggest.
But, at the end of the day, if you do what makes you happy and aren’t asking anyone else to be inconvenienced, I say it’s fair game. =)
Post # 8
forever_a_bride: That was another thought I had.. Of maybe just doing a vow renewal with just the kids and us. Go to the beach we were married on. And, no fancy big dresses, just pretty flowy ones. And, have a nice family picture done after. I thought maybe that would be nice.. Just do dinner with just us 4 afterwards.
Post # 9
Look, a vow renewal is not for everyone. Some people don’t want one and that is their right but others have their own reasons. Is your reason for a vow renewal a special one? Is it to recommit and remember the day you were married and want to celebrate? Me personally I am keeping my family OUT of my vow renewal. It has nothing to do them and is just between he and I, not something for others.
Post # 10
Inviting loved ones depends on whether or not your family will be supportive.
We are having a vow renewal for our fifth anniversary. It will be just like a wedding.
My family is very excited, so we don’t feel silly about our plans. In only five years of marriage, we have weathered many storms and we want to celebrate that.