(Closed) To RSVP or not to RSVP

posted 12 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
478 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

If you don’t mind losing the stamp maybe do both?  We are getting our rsvp cards back now and while most people have sent them back (some with some prodding) we have had a bunch of people just email us – especially those who are declining. 

Maybe giving them two options will help you get your responses faster – though people seem to resist the rsvp altogether. 

Post # 4
233 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would add the rsvps in the invite. Not all people will have access to the website. You can add a message about the website on the card. Something like “online RSVP also available at websiteaddress.com”  just an idea!

Post # 6
13 posts
  • Wedding: June 2010

I did an RSVP online thing too, and some people RSVPd as soon as they got the invites, some people needed reminding and then they went online, and others… IDK  We’re going to send out a postcard with information from the couple, which includes a reminder to RSVP online a month before the “last chance to RSVP” date.  We are putting language on there like “please visit our website to RSVP if you have not done so already.  If you do not RSVP, we will assume you cannot come, and will not have a seat reserved for you.  If you can not make it, please go online and RSVP with a “no” response”.  Other information is on there too so it’s not like we’re yelling at them, lol.  My family is very irresponsible with RSVPing in general so RSVP cards would be a waste of time and money.

Post # 7
71 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We set up an e-mail adress for people to rsvp to, then a google doc to keep track. So far, it’s working well… we’ve heard back from over half of our invites and they have until the 23rd of April. We did this partially because of budget restraints, but also because most of the people we are inviting are young… and the rest we can get answers from in other ways (phone calls, visiting, word of mouth…) so it hasn’t been a problem for us… But every group of guests is different- look at who you’re inviting; do you think they’d likely RSVP online as opposed to with the card?

Post # 8
330 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Maybe my guests are different sorts of animals than yours but ALL of our guests rsvp online! Saved us quite a bit of $ and headache.

Post # 9
2208 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Yeah, on my RSVPs, I put a telephone number, email address, stamp on some RSVPs, and a website…  OUt of the 130 people I invited, only 1 person RSVP on the website, 2 people texted me, and everyone else mailed the RSVP back.  I felt bad that I didn’t give everyone a stamp.  I thought my closest friends would text or call me but they all mailed it back.  Weird!

Post # 10
820 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

We have the option online if anyone wants to use it but I think most people will use the rsvp card. Plus, we have a lot of older guests who have a hard time getting to our website, nevermind actually finding the RSVP tab.  Hah!

Post # 11
606 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2009

All of our RSVPs are online…we didn’t do a card at all, and it’s been fine.  I think it depends on who you’ve invited, but we know for a fact that all 200 guests can get online and RSVP.  If the REALLY don’t want to, they can call us.  People are terrible about RSVPs anyway, so you’re very likely going to have to remind a lot of them, and then track them down to get an answer, not matter what method you give them to respond.  People just don’t understand how important the RSVP is!

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