(Closed) To Santa or not to Santa…

posted 8 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: Will your child believe in Santa?

    A. Yes, a child needs wonder in life.

    B. No, I refuse to lie to my child and this is a form of lying.

    C. I don't know.

  • Post # 107
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I wasn’t devestated when I found out about Santa, but I don’t see how that has anything to do with it. So, lying or doing something I’m uncomfortable with is okay as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone else too much? Interesting.

    Post # 109
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    Add us to the no-Santa club. DH and I are just weary of all the trappings that surround Christmas – Santa presents, the damn Elf on the Shelf, all the commercials, the packed malls, Black Friday, etc. I guess we will do the Santa thing in a way. We plan on explaining to them St. Nicholas and how he gave to those in need and use it as an opportunity to GIVE some presents at Christmas time. If we do cave and do the Santa thing, it will probably only be stockings. I don’t feel like we’ll be harming them or curbing their imagination in any way.

    Post # 110
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

    @Peach_Cobbler:  +1 to what you said. Except that I’m Jewish and so my kids will be getting their magic from Harry Potter lol. 

    Post # 111
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

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    @Peach_Cobbler:  Like I just pointed out, the point is not whether or not the children will be traumatized by being lied to. And, as many other posters pointed out, it’s JUST as enjoyable to make believe when you know the truth. And, really, what exactly am I depriving my child of? There are plenty of children in the world who don’t celebrate Christmas with Santa for a variety of reasons and none of them are deprived for that alone.

    Post # 113
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: February 2012

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    @Peach_Cobbler:  Lol if only… I wish I could go to Hogwarts. 

    Post # 115
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    When I was a kid, I didn’t believe in santa. My parents told me Santa was real, but I just always knew it was BS. It made my mom so mad! However, santa is not what really makes Christmas special, in my opinion. I was just as excited about Christmas as kids who believed in Santa, because as a kid, you’re getting two fun things: presents, and getting to hang out and have fun with family. 

    Plus, I think it gives kids a greater appreciation for all that is bestowed upon them when they know that their parents spent their hard-earned money just to see them smile. Just for the reaction when they see the one thing they have wanted in their laps. To see the tears in my mom’s eyes, knowing that she cared enough about me to get me gifts, essentially “just because,” made me feel pretty good as a kid.

    If I had children, I don’t think I would tell them there is a Santa. I will let them choose whatever they want to believe, and then go with their choice. I would tell them that some people believe in santa, and explain what santa does, and then I will say that some people don’t believe in santa, ask my kid what they think.

    Post # 116
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

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    @Peach_Cobbler:  It seems like you have a couple reasons where you believe it’s acceptable to not do Santa, but the point is that no one needs to justify it (to you or anyone else). A lot of pro Santa people in this thread have made it seem like depriving your child of Santa is some horrible, monsterous thing that will crush their imagination, when, in reality, it just isn’t.

    And, yeah, it IS lying to your kid. Imagination isn’t lying because it’s something you do, knowing full well that the thing you’re pretending is not true. My son knows that animals don’t talk in human language, but that doesn’t make it fun to watch kids’ movies about animals. Kids know a fort isn’t an ACTUAL castle, but it’s still fun to pretend. The difference is that I don’t say “this IS a castle, you ARE a princess, now live your day to day life as if this is truth”. We can day dream together & enjoy our imaginations, but that doesn’t mean I create an elaborate story to back up the fact that this is a reality, or that I’m scared for my child to find out the “truth” that his fort isn’t a REAL castle. I don’t have to hide things from him, or worry that another kid in his class might “spill the beans”. I don’t make up convoluted excuses for things when he might figure out that it’s made up.

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