(Closed) To Save the Date or Not!

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’d send out another STD if you are sure of the 2nd date.

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’d actually send an email. Cheaper and easier! And they already have gotten a STD so they know no matter when it is, they’re likely invited.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’d send out another STD 8-6 months before the wedding date.  

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Have a look at your guestlist, and see who is on the list without whom you simply cannot imagine getting married. These are the people who matter most to you: to send them a printed form-letter would be cold and impersonal. Send each of them a hand-written note letting them know of your new plans: since they are so close to you they can be trusted to adapt their vacation schedule and social calendar to accomodate your wedding.

Everyone else can make their plans when the actual invitation arrives. You cannot really demand that they “save the date” anyway, and if they have to decline due to a prior engagement it won’t be the end of the world. You’ll save postage, and frankly you’ll be following the more polite course of action.

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