(Closed) to seat or not to seat….

posted 4 years ago in Reception
Post # 2
3899 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

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drpattiecakes:  no help here im here to see what others are saying somce I may have the same situation…

Do you guus have a head table or a sweatheat table or what?

Post # 3
1754 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

I think it would be polite to have a couple “reserved” signs and let your immediate families know that those tables will be there for them. That way they can sit where they can see everything and make sure they can sit together. 

Post # 4
224 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2018

Recent wedding I was in did this – reserved for bridal party + guests, another for groom’s family, and another for bride’s family. Everything else was open seating. I would try to make it clear though – people tried taking seats from the bridal party table and we had to go hunt chairs down. Also people tried sitting there because the signs were small so people didn’t know they were reserved.

Post # 5
1377 posts
Bumble bee

We’ve decided to assign people to a particular table and they can decide from there where and next to whom they’d like to sit. perhaps this is a good compromise for you?

Post # 6
484 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Well, in general I’m a fan of assigned seats or at least tables, but if everyone at your wedding knows each other and would feel welcome to sit with anyone else there, then I suppose free-for-all works. But I feel like what your fiance is saying is “my family would prefer to sit and celebrate together and I would like to make that possible for them.”

I think you should respect that and reserve some tables. Otherwise grandma and grandpa might end up off in a corner away from family and would be bummed.

Post # 7
1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Are you prepared to tell people, no you were not close enough to the family (maybe a second cousin or an aunt) these seats are NOT for you?  Are you prepared for hard feelings that may last years? Are you prepared for the other guests to feel like second class?  To try to take a seat, and be told, no we are saving this?  PLEASE assign people to tables.  

Post # 8
594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 1993

I personally think the find your own seat is alright.  I do believe FAMILY AND CLOSE FRIENDS should have designated tables.  You can put reserved signs on those tables for them.  Don’t make your mom and dad or her family sit in the back

Post # 9
9575 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

I don’t think it’s polite to teir your guests like that. Just assign tables. 

Post # 10
374 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

My fiancee and I are only reserving one tabel for the two of us and my mom/stepdad and dad/stepmom. his parents are deceased. so aside from this table it will be open seating. knowing our families and friends they will be table hopping and visiting with each other any way.

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