Post # 1
My Fiance and I are trying to come to an agreement on the seating at the reception. We HAVE agreed to a “sit where you want”, however, he want to put “reserved” signs on a few tables for his immediate family. I feel that since there is no seating arrangement, that we should have it that way. No reserve tables. And we would have to tell the people that the table is for, so they would know. My family prefer to choose their own seating; ei; near the speakers/dance floor, closer to the restroom, food, etc. Any suggestions? Has anyone else worked this out in similar situation? Thanks!
Post # 2
no help here im here to see what others are saying somce I may have the same situation…
Do you guus have a head table or a sweatheat table or what?
Post # 3
I think it would be polite to have a couple “reserved” signs and let your immediate families know that those tables will be there for them. That way they can sit where they can see everything and make sure they can sit together.
Post # 4
Recent wedding I was in did this – reserved for bridal party + guests, another for groom’s family, and another for bride’s family. Everything else was open seating. I would try to make it clear though – people tried taking seats from the bridal party table and we had to go hunt chairs down. Also people tried sitting there because the signs were small so people didn’t know they were reserved.
Post # 5
We’ve decided to assign people to a particular table and they can decide from there where and next to whom they’d like to sit. perhaps this is a good compromise for you?
Post # 6
Well, in general I’m a fan of assigned seats or at least tables, but if everyone at your wedding knows each other and would feel welcome to sit with anyone else there, then I suppose free-for-all works. But I feel like what your fiance is saying is “my family would prefer to sit and celebrate together and I would like to make that possible for them.”
I think you should respect that and reserve some tables. Otherwise grandma and grandpa might end up off in a corner away from family and would be bummed.
Post # 7
Are you prepared to tell people, no you were not close enough to the family (maybe a second cousin or an aunt) these seats are NOT for you? Are you prepared for hard feelings that may last years? Are you prepared for the other guests to feel like second class? To try to take a seat, and be told, no we are saving this? PLEASE assign people to tables.
Post # 8
I personally think the find your own seat is alright. I do believe FAMILY AND CLOSE FRIENDS should have designated tables. You can put reserved signs on those tables for them. Don’t make your mom and dad or her family sit in the back
Post # 9
I don’t think it’s polite to teir your guests like that. Just assign tables.
Post # 10
My fiancee and I are only reserving one tabel for the two of us and my mom/stepdad and dad/stepmom. his parents are deceased. so aside from this table it will be open seating. knowing our families and friends they will be table hopping and visiting with each other any way.