(Closed) To Seat or Not to Seat

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Not assigning seats can create huge headaches for your guests, especially with that many tables for I’d avoid it. I would assign people to tables, but not to specific seats at each table. I don’t think people will be offended by where their table is.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2011

When I actually sat down with the list in front of me it was alot easier to group people than I thought.

I did “table” seating rather than specific seat seating, and think that all went well.. I think someone told me I did a good job of placing, but I don’t remember lol

For that many tables/guests though I’d probably take my chances of making a chart rather than leaving it to them… especially is Fiance “side” (friends, etc) don’t really know your side.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I’m going to do it even though it makes my life harder because I don’t want anyone to feel awkward about choosing a seat, or getting there later and having to split up as a couple because only 1 seaters at each table are left. It’s easier for THEM to have a seating chart, so I’m going to do it.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I also think a seating chart would create less headache for you and guests.  I’d hate having to secure a seat for myself and etc etc.  Good luck!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

It’s definitely easier on your guests if you assign tables. One thing to keep in mind is that you can vary the number of chairs per table if that helps to group people more logically. I had eight people at most tables, but some tables had as few as six, and some as many as nine, to accommodate logical groupings. 

Also, I used mostly round tables, but I even had one long table of 12 for FI’s family because I didn’t want to break them up.

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Oh, I also had our caterer place our table in the CENTER of all the other tables. That way everyone was equally spaced away from us, so no reason to be upset about where you sat.

Post # 14
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I just posted this on another thread about an hour ago.  When I was deciding to assign tables or not, I read an article which said at least 85% of people perfer to have at least assigned tables.

I agree with the PP who said it’s awkward for people when they don’t know where to sit.  People may want to sit with a group of friends, but can’t find a table with enough open seats.  Or couples get split up because there’s only one seat open at each table.  Also, you don’t want to have your four college friends who love to party end up at a table with your super Christian aunt and uncle.  I think it just makes it easier for everyone.

It isn’t too hard to assign tables.  I wouldn’t stress over the exact seating. 

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

There is a great tool on Martha Stewart Wedding Tools that you can use to do it. It makes it sooo easy!

Post # 16
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

You can assign your guests to specific tables, but maybe let them decide which chair to sit or where they want to sit within the table.   That could make your planning a bit easier too!

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