To Select Shoes for Short Bridesmaid Dress or Not?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

morenike :  I suggested mine just find a pair of nude shoes to go with their dress, either heels or flats it was up to them.

This was apparently impossible, so they’ve ended up with grey sparkly shoes that go with the dress.

I would still suggest you ask them to wear nude heels though so that they aren’t distracting if they don’t “match” and it’s probably something they already have or would happily invest in. It allows them to choose something that is comfortable for them too

xx

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

morenike :  Yeah, but with my permission lol

They couldn’t find nude ones they liked, but they liked these ones and they go with the dresses.

 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

My bridesmaid dresses are ankle length with a slit so their shoes will definitely be on display. I asked that they wear any style they want (heels, flats, wedges etc.) but in a certain colour range (any neutral light colour, e.g. blush, nude, white, grey, metallic, etc.). One of my bridesmaids has purchased very chunky black shoes that  apparently “look great with the dress” (which are very light grey, for an outdoor summer wedding). So I am half wishing that I had specified, but also I wanted them to have the choice of wearing something that they already owned or pick something they would love to wear again. Hopefully she changes her mind…

In summary if you are very particular and this will bother you, I would probably find something (cheap) with your girls that they can all agree on. And if you go this route make sure you ask them their budget, I would personally not want to spend more than 50$ on shoes. 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Choosing their shoes is micro-managing and could lead to a very painful day for someone. Like if you put me in heels, I’d be in agony all day. Give them a color and let them choose their own shoes. It is a detail that nobody notices. Ever. Bonus points if you can choose a common color like black, so they are likely to already have a pair of suitable shoes and be spared another expense.

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I am planning on buying shoes and dresses for my girls! I am way too picky about details to let anyone choose for themselves! Lol 🙂

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

I think you can request that they all get a certain color, but that would be the limit of what you should be choosing.

They should be able to decide flat vs heel, and actually pick out the shoe- especially if you are making them pay.  Then they might be able to find something they would wear again.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Request a certain color and leave it at that.  As a previous bridesmaid I’ve had one friend select our shoes (while I was totally okay doing this), I only wore them once and then donated. Another chose a color and let us pick our own.  It was fine both ways, but I kind of thought the mismatched shoes looked better – more interesting.  Not to mention everyone was a lot more comfortable.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Southern Plantation House

In weddings I’ve been in, the bride has always “suggested” (never demanded) for the bridesmaids to wear shoes in a certain color. Most times the chosen color is nude, or once brown wedges. I have enjoyed this because I already own shoes in the neutral colors and haven’t needed to buy shoes specifically for my bridesmaid dresses! I would be annoyed if a bride requested a specific style of shoe… what if it is uncomfortable? Not my taste? Too expensive?

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

morenike :  “The only problem is the shoes are now going to be very important.” I know you think that’s true (most brides do), but it’s not. No one is going to care about the BMs shoes, whether they are visible or not. If you want to make sure nothing looks crazy with the dress, I’d simply tell your BMs to please where a shoe in X color. What color is the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress? Nude is very simple and a lot of BMs probably already have something that will work. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

What I did was suggest a color (silver) and style (formal). Then I let them choose whatever they liked from there and it worked out well. Both girls ended up sending me pictures of the shoes they liked before buying so I could “OK” them (didn’t ask them to do this). If you’re wanting a color or anything that could have variance to it, be as specific as possible or find an example for them for their reference when they’re shopping.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Just give a colour if you really need to. Shoes are so personal and can easily be really uncomfortable for some people. It’s unfair to ask bridesmaids to be in pain like that. 

I didn’t even care about colour and just told them to wear whatever. No one is going to be looking at the bridesmaids shoes when there is a bride in a pretty dress standing there. 

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