To Select Shoes for Short Bridesmaid Dress or Not?

posted 3 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 16
2627 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

morenike :  Yeah they’ve chosen nice shoes, I’m happy.

One of them is going to have slightly different shoes though as she’s got to run around after her kids all day.

It pales in comparison to the fact we had to change their dress colour right at the start lol


Post # 17
164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

When I was a bridesmaid in a short dress, the bride asked us all to wear black shoes in any summery style. It was great because I now wear the shoes I ended up buying ALL the time to almost every wedding I go to. It’s hard to find a dress that works with everyone, much less shoes! When some people don’t feel comfrotable wearing heels, others don’t want flats, etc. etc. Plus as a person who wears an uncommon shoe size, not many shoes come in my size!

I did ask the bride what she thought of the shoes first, though. There was one pair she wasn’t a fan of and said they weren’t formal enough to her, and I had no problem finding another. 

Post # 18
3892 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Horseradish :  This 100%. 

My girls wore long dresses with slits and I asked them to purchase a neutral shoe in a height they were comfortable with.  Shoes are so unimportant, I would just give them a color range and let them choose a pair they own or are in their price range that they find comfortable. 

Post # 19
523 posts
Busy bee

Honestly the bridesmaid shoes are so far down the list of ‘very important’ it’s not funny. 

Pick either silver or nude and call it a day. Hopefully they will find a pair they are comfortable in and will wear again.

If the bride insists on picking a shoe, my rule is that she has to buy them. But to be honest, even then I wouldn’t like it. I have an odd shaped foot and find most shoes are so uncomfortable. 

Post # 20
12320 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Shoes are very personal. One pair rarely fits all. Even if they did, your discretion is over the dress only. Even then, it is appropriate to consult on style and budget.

The most you can do is suggest a neutral color that most or many women would own. 

Post # 21
930 posts
Busy bee

I did, but I also purchased the shoes for them. I wanted them in flats because I’m short myself. I also didn’t want any “flip flopping” sounds. I couldn’t justify being picky about shoes and then not buying them since they didn’t get to choose their dresses (except for my Maid/Matron of Honor who picked them out). I actually got a great deal on their shows thanks to a bogo deal and coupons. All of their shoes came to about $11 each. The best thing was though, they all have worn them after my wedding. (I’ve seen them each wearing them)

Post # 22
341 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

Ugh don’t make them buy shoes you want. I had to spend $50 on the most painful pair of shoes ever and I couldn’t enjoy the wedding. They were prob fine for some other bridesmaids but I have flat and narrow feet that slide out of heels and need support. I wore them once and donated them. Just give them a color I told my girls nude or gold and they came out super cute. 

Post # 23
2657 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

My bridesmaids wore knee-length dresses. I just told them to wear whatever black shoes they wanted – heels, flats, wedges, whatever. This way they could wear shoes they already owned or, if they chose to buy a pair, they could easily be reworn. The only other colours that really would have matched were gold, silver or white/cream (gold didn’t really work with our colour scheme and I was concerned with white shoes getting dirty during our outdoor ceremony). I did consider silver, as grey/silver was another of our colours, but knew that all the bridesmaids would have to buy them and they would be unlikely to be reworn. As it was, black was an accent colour so it worked with our colour scheme and I figured no one is really looking at their feet anyway.

My best friend and SIL wore black open toe heels they already owned. My sisters bought new shoes (one is only 14 so didn’t really have any nice shoes – she chose some dressy sandals with a slight wedge heel; the other did plan to wear shoes she already owned, but found some she liked on sale so decided to go with those instead – they had a chunky heel and were also open toe). I think they all looked great and complemented each other nicely.

Post # 30
930 posts
Busy bee

morenike :  The store I bought them at actually gave them to me. They were out of a size I needed so they were given as an inconvenience. They have another store litwrally 2 blocks away which had the size I needed. It was the best inconvenience for me! Haha.

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