Post # 1
I was talking to my married friend (for all of 1 year) about buying a used dress. She curled her nose up at me and said that she would have NEVER bought a used dress. She began to state reasons that she wouldnt, like, It wouldnt be hers. She then also stated that she would never sale hers because she wanted to pass it on to her daughter.
This made me think. Eventhough she will never wear that dress again, she would rather keep it in a box in her sons closet, where it is often trampled from frequent games of hide and seek….? I wondered if she realized no matter how beautiful she thinks her dress it, her daughter will be in a totally different fashion class than she is, and wont wear it. Heck, she didnt want to wear her moms dress.
Given the opportunity I will purchase a used gown in a heartbeat. (SIDE NOTE: If anyone has the brand new Pronovias Finesterre ready to sale Im your women!!!!) I am also not going to keep the dress in a closet for it to never see the light of day again. I will let my joy also be someone else’s. And to all the bridal gown sellers. Dont expect to get more than half for your gown. Its just not realistic. And for 75% off a gal can just go buy the dress new .
Just my opinion!! Thoughts????
Post # 3
I would not want to sell mine because well its just that mine but you can only hold on to those things for so long. I think after a while I would want to get rid of it or even have the option to give it to my daughter. She can change it any way she wants.
Post # 4
I am still on the fence about this since I just got married in June.
I do have a friend who when I was looking made very rude remarks about how she’d never get a used dress. I had seriously looked at a few. For some I think it’s just “not the way it should be”. Another friends’ mother wouldn’t let her get her dream used dress. It just wasn’t allowed.
I had no problem with buying one but I’m still undedided on what to do with mine now. :/
Post # 5
Who cares?! Why are people so against it?! I would buy a used dress if it wasnt altered too much and had not a mark on it. If it saves me money, then great! I do only plan on wearing the thing once and then it will probably sit and sit. Until maybe one year I go to a halloween costume contest then maybe slip it back on to win some money, haha.
Post # 6
I have no problem with a used dress. I was married before and planned to sell my dress and never got around to it. Now it has been 10 years and styles have changed. I just need to get rid of it. I think the odds of a daughter wanting to do anything other than dress up with her mother’s dress are really slim.
Post # 7
I will be selling mine and dont have a problem buying a used dress.
Post # 8
I have to chime in here and say that while a lot of girls don’t wear their mother’s dress, I did…and I’m so glad that my mom didn’t decide to sell hers. If she did, I wouldn’t have my wedding dress! I’m absolutely going to keep mine, and if my daughter doesn’t want to wear it, she might want to use some of it to put into her veil or something.
But, even if the dress is used, there’s no reason why you couldn’t keep it to make it yours. And if you do sell it, that’s absolutely your decision. But also just keep in mind that you could even use your dress to be made into a christening gown for your kids if you don’t think any of them will wear it.
Post # 10
I have no idea what I’ll do with my dress. As I haven’t even worn it yet, I can’t imagine parting with it. But that decision is for further down the road, I guess.
I’m not against a used dress. My only concern is how very altered dresses are to fit a particular woman’s body. Of course, they can always be re-altered; so I’d just watch out for alterations that are too hard to shape to your own body.
Post # 11
I agree absolutely with @Gemstone about her views on used dresses. And I don’t think there’s anything wrong with buying one at all – who’s going to know but you and those you chose to tell? Good for your friend, who was able to get the dress she wanted. Sometimes brides want dresses that are from previous seasons and the only way to get them is to get them used. And sometimes brides need to, for personal reasons, sell their dress so they do that. I don’t think it’s really fair to judge someone because they want to save money and buy a used dress or they need money and therefore will sell their wedding dress. It’s a totally personal decision.
For the record, I bought a new dress that wasn’t a wedding dress because I couldn’t afford one and I didn’t find a “wedding” designer dress that I liked. I plan on keeping it because it’s something I can re-wear and I’d rather get my bucks worth out of it than keep it safe in a box and never wear it again.
Post # 12
I did sell my dress and let me tell you all, I am really glad I did. I am definitely the type of person who saves everything, and I am moving into a new house next week. The room I’ll have will be great, but when I thought about it, I knew my dress would be just sitting in the closet doing nothing, taking up space. So why not sell my dress and keep the money I got for things that I need? One less thing to save.
This is the way I looked at it: I had a great day in my dress and why shouldn’t another bride who might be on a budget and needs to buy a used dress enjoy my dress too? I picked a very classic, A-line style and the bride who bought it loved my dress. I wanted to share the dress love too. I’m really happy that I sold my dress.
(Also, if the dress is recently cleaned, it’s pretty much brand-new too! I was incredibly lucky that I had a talented seamstress who left the fabric that was taken in inside the dress. Easy to let out!)
Post # 13
Ha ha, I’m always stalking Oncewed because I know that unless my gown sells for $750 or less, I ain’t buying it and I am very unsentimental, I’m not keeping it. What if I don’t have a daughter? And finally, living in NYC, space is at a premium, I’d rather use the space for the box for SHOES and more SHOES 🙂