(Closed) To send or not to send, that is the question!

posted 11 years ago in Paper
  • poll: Should we send save the dates?



  • Post # 3
    353 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Depends on how many of your guests are out of towners.  Our wedding was 75% so we mailed STD’s six months before but if it’s just a small amount then maybe just email them? Depends on how formal you want to be but printing less the 10 STD’s seems like a waste of money.

    Post # 4
    33 posts

    I say send them if you want.  My family is all out of town, and his family, which is much larger, is local.  We only sent them to the out-of-state people who would need to make travel arrangements.  We did not send them to the locals.  Hope that helps…

    Post # 5
    78 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    Why don’t they want you to send them? Is it cost? I did mine for $37 (postage included) for 80 STDs. We sent them out since the majority are out of state, and sent them out 6 1/2 months before hand. If you want to send em, send em! I think its always helpful to have more info than not.

    Post # 6
    1465 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    If you want to send them, then that is your decision, no one else’s. If someone does not like your choice, they can do their own thing at their own wedding. Also, it has nothing to do with being out of town or in town. Lots of people who live in the same town as the couple have have incredibly busy lives and will greatly benefit from save the dates, which are generally sent 12 months before the wedding date. The same applies if your wedding is around a holiday, in which everyone, regardless of where they live, needs the same information well ahead of time.

    Send them out to everyone. Also, they do not have to be expensive or elaborate at all.

    Post # 7
    493 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    If you’re going to send save the dates I think you should probably send them to ALL the guests, not just the ones who are out of town.  If some people get save the dates and others don’t, they might assume that they aren’t invited to your wedding because you didn’t send them one… I can just see some feelings potentially hurt (people are weird about things like that sometimes).  I’ve heard about save the date post cards that don’t cost as much postage wise and might be the most affordable way to go.  Obviously you always have the option of just emailing or calling people.. in which case I don’t think you need to necessarily contact all your guests (you can just keep it to the out of town ones) and clearly doesn’t cost you anything but you’ll still achieve your goal of giving them the heads up. 

    Post # 8
    4485 posts
    Honey bee

    Send them out to everyone. Where they live is completely moot and everyone needs to have the same advance notice to prepare.

    Post # 9
    375 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    Send them out. I love getting them because I am able to block the weekend and plan ahead. I am surprised now to get JUST the wedding invite… and sometimes have already committed to another event when I get them 2-3 months in advance. 

    Plus, with airlines and airfare, if you want to use miles or find a cheap flight, it helps to have as much heads-up time as possible. 

    Do post cards, since the postage is a lot cheaper.

    Post # 10
    1774 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    We didn’t do them.  We had a four month engagement, and told all the people we really wanted there.  The bonus to this way is that there were some people I had to invite who I was hoping wouldn’t come, so I didn’t want to give too much notice there.   I wanted to spend the time and money on other things.  BUT- it’s your wedding, you only do it once, do what makes you happy.

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