(Closed) To serve or not to serve appetizers for wedding guests….

posted 9 years ago in Food
Post # 3
7309 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

So your wedding will end at 2 and your reception will begin at 6. Correct? You could either start cocktail hour at 5pm and begin the formal reception at 6, or you could start cocktail hour at 6 and begin the dinner service at 7. Either way would work okay. Just know that your guests will wander off for the gap time and probably go eat lunch somewhere. this may affect their hunger level for a 5pm cocktail hour. 

Post # 5
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I probably would try to tighten the schedule so there is a shorter time span between your ceremony and reception.  A lot of guests really don’t enjoy that long of time span between things and may wonder off an not come back. 

Post # 7
7309 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

If I have a 1:30pm wedding to attend, I plan to arrive at 1pm, which means I start getting ready at 11:15am so I can leave the house by 12:15pm. On that timeline, I will be starving by the end of the wedding and heading straight to my local food joint of choice for lunch. I say that starting cocktail hour lates (5:30 or 6ish???) may be better.

Post # 9
1690 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

i dont know if this suggestion helps or not, but this is my timeline

ceremony at 2pm

champagne and canapes from 2.30 – 4.00  while photos are being done

4.-4.30ish    sit down to a 3 course meal……lasting until 6-7.00  

Post # 10
647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Why not push your ceremony back to 4, finishes at 4:30, people make their way to the cocktail hour which starts at 5, and you guys stay back and take pictures for an hour, and make it to your reception by 6?

Such big time gaps are really annoying, especially for out of town guests.  If their hotel is 20-30 minutes from the ceremony site, after the ceremony they’re supposed to drive back to their hotel, twiddle their thumbs in their fancy clothes for an hour, then pack it back up in the car again? No fun.

And if you do some of the posed pictures before the ceremony (family shots and whatever) you really won’t need so much time between the ceremony and the reception.  As you say, you hate posing for pictures.  Can you imagine posing for pictures for FOUR hours??

Post # 11
168 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Give yourself time to take pictures, even if you dont think youll use it. My engagement photo session was 1.5 hours and it FLEW by. Just think that you may not have everyone all dressed up for your wedding again, so get all the pics you think you may want!

As for the food, I think if you have a gap guests will understand. However, if you are having a cocktail hour (with alcohol-duh ;D), I think you should serve food. I was at a wedding recently where they starting serving drinks BEFORE the ceremony, had no apps at all, and most people were drunk (read:wasted) by the time dinner rolled around (not a pretty picture). You dont have to go crazy with appetizers, but a fruit and cheese display or something would be nice so ppl can nibble while they drink. 

Post # 12
2853 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

What about moving the time of the ceremony back and doing pictures before? We’re trying to knock out as many pics as we can beforehand so we can actually enjoy our party. We’re also going for a lot of candids and less (but some) posed.

Post # 13
65 posts
Worker bee

I agree with Sassygryn that most wedding guests dislike long wait periods between the ceremony and reception.  It’s one of the top ten complaints that wedding guests have (some even consider it rude to have guests waiting for more than 2 hours).  If there’s any way to shorten it, that would be better.  Plus, it kind of breaks up the “natural flow” of things.  Another option would be to have a reception an hour or two after the ceremony.  Have an English tea garden reception (it would work well with your time and garden ceremony) afterwards, if it’s feasible.  If not, if you can’t change your plans, I suppose you can skip the cocktail hour entirely and just have dinner.  Maybe just notify your guests in advance though that you’re having a dinner reception at 6 pm or whatever time…or just have a smaller, simpler cocktail reception around 6 pm and start dinner at 7pm.

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