Post # 1
My FI’s mom and sister were nice enough to throw us a shower last weekend for his side of the family. My bridesmaids and mom were also invited. It was fun, no complaints.
My sister (MOH) is throwing me a shower on Sunday. She got off to a late start with the invites, and lots of people can’t attend. Let me clarify — the only one person other than the people who were at last week’s shower who will be at the second one will be one aunt, *maybe* one or two random friends who haven’t RSVP’d.
I still want to get together with everyone, but I feel like I’d be more comfortable if it was just an informal lunch, rather than a “shower” with the exact same group of people giving me gifts… again. A BM says that she and probably already have the gifts, so it would be less awkward to keep things as they are.
Then there’s that poor-me side that says, “A low-key lunch — how fun!” As opposed to, “It’s my shower — and no one came.” You’d be amazed by the games I can play with myself in my head. I just found out that some out-of-state friends who I didn’t think wouldn’t make it to the wedding are coming, so that makes me feel better.
Note: The only people who were invited to both showers were my BMs and our mothers.
Post # 3
The invites have gone out. It’s a shower. Go, have fun and send thank you’s. 🙂
However, you as the bride, would have been in charge of a guest list. If you feel bad about guests “doubling up”, why were they invited? I’m having a family shower and then a gf shower. The only doubles are my mom and her twin sister, who I’ve directed NOT to come b/c she’s throwing the other. 🙂
Post # 4
I am having a couples shower this weekend, and had my bridal shower last month. Many of the guests are the same, but including their SO. I told those guests to please not worry about bringing another gift, we just would love to see their smiling face and share the day with them. FMIL is throwing this shower so FI can get in on some of the pre-party fun. Most of our friends that did not come to the bridal shower are unable to come, so it will mainly be family and guests who came to the first one. No matter, they love us and want to share our excitement. Just enjoy yourself and have fun!
Post # 5
@Coral99: FI’s mom invited my mom & BMs to make me more comfortable since I didn’t know anyone else, and my sister/MOH is throwing the second (FI’s sister/BM won’t be there this week). I’m really glad they were there.
@The_Future_KB: +1 This is what I should have specifically done — I didn’t even think about it or the fact that I didn’t say anything to anyone until yesterday. I know my aunt got me something (she wasn’t at the other) and my MOH & BM went in on a second gift. I guess it is what it is, and I am looking forward to seeing everyone, regardless of the circumstances.
Post # 6
@discokitty: Exactly. It’s all about celebrating you and your FI, just enjoy it!