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Last weekend, my parents, my fiance and his parents walked the site of our wedding for the first time together. Our venue is a beautiful farm with a lake, on-site reception tent, beautiful stone work, lights in the trees, very outdoorsy. We all talked about where we would set up the guest book, the ceremony and reception decor, where the dance floor will go…yada yada yada. I have a huge feeling of relief being able to get all of my thoughts and ideas out in person.
The dilema came when we found the new and beautiful fire pit that the farm had just added. I knew this firepit was coming, assumed it would be close to the reception area, and planned my desserts around it. Specifically, I decided on mini cupcakes and krispy kreme doughnuts for my dessert table and a huge smore’s buffet out by the firepit, which would “open” during dessert hour and go on through the reception.
We all loved the idea of smores, it was way cheaper than other desserts and it is a favorite pasttime of my fiance’s family that we all did together. Problem is…they placed the firepit to overlook the lake..its beautiful…but its not at all close to the reception tent. You have to walk down a few paths within the farm, through a small patch of woods to get there.
I immediately thought to myself…this is going to take my guests OFF the dance floor and super spread out around the farm. Kids can no longer go make a smore with their parent’s watching from their dinner table…they would all need to be supervised. Smokers would congregate in this area in order to get away from the crowd. I am kinda bummed…
My mom gave me a call yesterday voicing the same concerns….”Honey, I know you love the firepit and smores idea, but it is kinda too far away from the reception area to really work well. Your guests are going to leave your reception tent to go make a smore and park it in an airondeck chair overlooking the beautiful view”
What would you do? I am still going to atleast have a fire. I plan to put some blankets out by the firepit and let whoever wants to get away from the music enjoy that area. I am not reconsidering my smores bar. I know that even I would leave the reception to go make myself some smores…I definitely dont want my guests leaving my dance party! My thoughts are just to beef up my dessert bar with maybe a smore-flavored cupcake, do without marshmellows by the firepit, and forget the idea completely (even though I have told several people and all of the bridal party how awesome my firepit and smores bar will be!)
Post # 2
wlphilli: Last paragraph:: I am now** reconsidering my s’mores bar.
Post # 3
I went to a wedding at a day camp a few months ago, with a bonfire pit right outside the barn, where we ate. Smoke of any kind triggers my asthma, so I had to leave the area, shortly after it was lit. Since I would have ended up dozens of yards away from most of the guest, I just left early. Smores can get real messy, too. And not every parent monitors their children, either, so I would vote for the dessert bar.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast
I’d say just skip it… How will the guests even know to go down a path through the woods to find a fire with dessert? Are you sure you even want a fire going if guests might not be aware of it / takes people away from the reception?
That said… do you have to be out of the vacinity by a certain time? I’m having my wedding all in 1 place and the site also has rooms there so the bridal party will be sleeping there. We are planning on doing a fire and s’mores after the music is over and most people head home.
Post # 5
wlphilli: Hmmm….I really like the S’mores idea (but I.LOVE.S’MORES)
So, here is what I would do- since its dessert, it will towards the end of the night – I would find out if you could have someone from the venue to assist in helping make the s’mores this way there are not accidents.
I would also designate a different smoking area
Post # 6
We are having the fire/smores after the reception is over, for those who want to stay for the after party…that’s an idea.
Post # 7
Can you put another pit outside of the tent? You can get a firepit with the stand so it won’t mark the grass and have the s’mores there and the other firepit as a hang out quiet place.
We’re having a s’mores station. My FI and I LOVE s’mores, because we’re having a winter wedding we’re doing the station inside with sterno cans, we’re also having someone ‘man’ the station that the caterer is arranging and he’ll have a food grade blow torch to help people out.
Post # 8
- Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base
Have you considered an inside the tent smore option?
Post # 9
The ceremony site is right beside the lake, so guests will all see the new stone firepit and since it will be pitch dark by midnight, we thought about lighting the firepit once it gets dark..especially in case it gets cold.
A firepit is very “us” anyways since we are nature lovers. Unfortunately, we have to be out of the venue by 10:30 pm..so staying past the reception time is not an option (but would have been the perfect scenario!). The firepit cannot be moved and guests will be able to find their way down the path since it is the same path that takes them to the bathrooms, only farther down.
I will have alot of smokers at my wedding, but since it is mostly an outdoor event, I did not want to designate a “smoking area” because I did not think it would look that cute to have!
S’mores are super messy, but I’d much rather make a s’more than eat a cupcake anyday! I just see groups of guests going to the area for s’mores..leaving me dancing alone on my dance floor! My mom suggests just having a firepit, and if you want to go stand by the fire, then so be it..but it won’t be a huge attraction for my guests to visit….
Post # 10
angyjaxon: Yes, I’ve seen that idea alot, but seems like alot of work to make it when I have a firepit 200 yards away from my tent dont ya think?
Post # 12
- Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base
wlphilli: Im going to share my opinion with you and why we decided. Keep in mind like rear ends we all have them. My original venue also had a fire pit and we were still planning on making the smore fire stations for safety reasons:
Children could get hurt/burnt/poked with more than likely the coat hanger to cook the marshmallows. Vs using a bamboo kabob stick on a little burner.
Disposable kabob sticks are much more sanitary.
We wanted to leave the fire pit to the adults to enjoy and not stress over little kids being around.
Keep in mind you will still need to set up your smore station by the fire pit and clean it up.
Granted a fire pit is basically a bonus fire which does equate to smores in my book. For us, safety wins.
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I went to a wedding that had this exact same scenario. I heard about stores and definitely knew I was going to take the walk to the fire to make some s’mores! And a lot of people did! A huge group ended up hanging out at the fire pit instead of at the reception in the barnwolf it doesn’t bother you that ppl might prefer to sit at the fire instead then go for it.. The guests liked it a lot! But honestly, although I think it’s such a cute idea and who doesn’t love s’mores!? …I’d skip it bc it would bother me at my own wedding if ppl weredistracted away from dancing to a fire away from everyone.
Post # 15
- Wedding: October 2015 - Hidden Acres
We’re doing the s’mores bar at our rehearsal dinner – which is actually just a giant cookout. I’d be really upset if people walked away from the reception to hang out around a fire pit.