(Closed) To soon to send out the invitations?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

Absolutely too soon! Pretty much every wedding guide out there suggests sending them out 6-8 weeks before the wedding. If you send them out now, you risk people losing them, ignoring them until it’s too late, or sending in RSVPs and having to change them closer to the date since most people won’t be able to make plans this far ahead.

Post # 4
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141 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Ashley_B:  I think if you have out of town guests (and considering that you opted not to do STDs) I think it’s fine if you send them out already. However, my concern for you would be that people might forget to RSVP because you’re sending them out so far before the wedding. Way to get a head start on things though! I’m still designing my Save-The-Date Cards and need to get our engagement pics done to include for use in the STD. I pretty much already finished designing our invitation suite though lol… did it a little backwards!

Post # 5
Bee
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

You should be sending Save-The-Date Cards at this timepoint. 

Invites should go out MAX of 3months before wedding, ideally 2 months.

Post # 6
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1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think it is too soon.  I would lose your invite this far in advance.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

People are going to lose your invitations this far out.

Since you didn’t do an STD, you MIGHT be able to get away with sending them 3 months prior, but even that is pushing it.  A wedding invite will not stay on peoples’ fridges for this long.

Post # 8
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2702 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Oh my gosh yes. Way too soon. I would send them the third week in July. I know some would send them sooner and some earlier. I live by the 2 month rule

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think it’s too soon.  I think people may forget about it and/or forget to RSVP, so in the end you may be making more work for yourself. 

Post # 10
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4336 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Please don’t send them this soon! Wait til like others said, preferably 2 months before!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

You can let you family and friends from out-of-town know the date without sending out the invitations, an email or a phone call is fine at this point since you aren’t doing save-the-dates.  But I agree with PPs, you need to hold on to those invites until July.  People may assume they are save-the-dates and not invitations because they are just sooooo early. Then they’ll completely forget about them, because they’ll expect the actual invitation to come 2 months before the wedding.  You’ll be following-up for RSVPs 6 months after you sent the invitations.  They’ll be like “what invitation?  I don’t remember getting one”

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@Ashley_B:  If it’s family, can you just give them a heads up sooner than sending your invitations – maybe send an email? If these are people that you’re fairly sure will be buying plane tickets and booking hotel rooms, etc, it’s easy to give them the info without sending the actual invitation. Do you have a wedding website you can send them the link to with all the relevant info?

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