(Closed) To spank or not to spank??

posted 7 years ago in Babies
  • poll: Do you believe in spankings??
    Nope. : (67 votes)
    39 %
    Yes. : (90 votes)
    53 %
    Other : (13 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I will not spank.  I think it can go too far too quick, and often parents spank when they’re angry.  I’d rather be calm and collected if need be.  I think isolating the child for major offenses, to a chair and removing favorite objects from their possession is another way.  My fiance sees nothing wrong with spanking but growing up, only his dad did it and only a handful of times, his dad was also calm when he did it.  If we see the necessity to spanking, as the last straw, I’ll have him do it b/c I know I wouldn’t act calmly in that situation.  In general, I think spanking can be avoided.  I was spanked a lot for things that were out of my control as a small child. 

    Post # 4
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I plan to spank my children once Darling Husband and I have them.  I was spanked as a child and it truely was the most effective form of discipline for me when I was young.  Sitting in “time-out” was pretty worthless to me – what did I really care that I had to sit in the corner of the bathroom for 10 minutes?

    Spanking (ie a quick swat or two to the butt with an open palm through clothes) taught me pretty quickly what I should and shouldn’t do.  I was never hurt, just uncomfortable.  But that discomfort got the point accross!

    EDITED TO ADD: I never resented my parents and we’ve always had a wonderful relationship.  They never hit me with any objects or anywhere besides my clothed butt.  I thing a big part of why kids today are so poorly behaved compared to generations past is due to the stigma that has recently been assciated with spanking (thereby causing many parents to shy away from it).

    Post # 5
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    826 posts
    Busy bee

    Spanking is 100% unacceptable, in my view.  

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @Mrs.KMM:  I do resent my dad for spanking me b/c he spanked me for everything to the point I was so afraid to do anything.  Things I had no control over, he’d spank me.  I think some parents can’t handle spanking their children without getting carried away, so that’s why I’m mostly against it.  I also don’t think it’s as effective for kids who act out, my sister was one and she wasn’t phased by it.

    Post # 7
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    713 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    @Mrs.KMM: You took the words write out of my mouth! If more parents spanked their kids these days, we wouldn’t have all of these crazy kids who disrespect their elders.

    I don’t have children yet, but we plan to spank, but only with our hands while the child is clothed. I was spanked with whatever was in arm’s reach – not fun! It will only be for serious offenses though. Timeouts work with minor problems, but a lot of kids don’t really care if they can’t play for a couple of minutes. I know it didn’t bother me.

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee

    I wouldn’t “respect” a man if he hit me.  I don’t see why a child should respect a parent who hits them.  

    Post # 10
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    858 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think spanking is OK if it is used sparingly, like how one poster said their husband was only spanked a handful of times. Me too, and because it was the ultimate, I learned that what I was doing was absolutely unnacceptable. According to my text (I’m taking an education course on childhood development), time out’s alone are about near useless. I guess what you are supposed to do is explain why what they did was wrong.

    Post # 10
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    My situation is pretty extreme but I think there’s potential for parents to get carried away.  I also will not yell/scream at my kids like I’ve seen some parents do. 

    Post # 11
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Spanking can be an affective form of discipline, but should not be the first resort. Especially with a child that young. And it should be done in a calm controlled manner, and not excessive. But sometimes kids just need a swat on the butt because they don’t care about other “punishments”.

    Call CPS? Hell no. Spanking isn’t abuse and to call it such is a slap in the face to real child abuse.

     

    The ethics department at the hospital where I work has a nice PowerPoint presentation on spanking and explores both “sides” of the issue. They conclude it can be effective if used properly and sparingly but up to the parent if they want to use it as a discipline tool at all. http://www.childrensmercy.org/content/cmbc/view.aspx?id=15422

    Post # 13
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @Heatherloveskenny: It really depends on the child. Some do really well. Some couldn’t care less… like my son. You spank him and he looks at you like, “Umm.. Ok… Is that all you’ve got?” Timeouts work best for him ’cause he’s a busy body. (But he’s 7. Not 2.)

    So, in the end, you know your child better than anyone. Tailor your reaction to him. And no… I personally do not believe that spanking is too much for a 2 year old.

    Post # 15
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    @Heatherloveskenny: No offense taken!  I have both a brother and a sister (all of us were spanked) and there was never a physical fight in my household.

    @ThingsThatShine: Spanking shouldn’t be hitting.  My Darling Husband lovingly/playfully swats me on the butt now with similar force to how I was spanked as a kid.

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