(Closed) To STD or not STD

posted 8 years ago in Paper
  • poll: To save the date or Not save the day
    Etiquette Say you have to : (0 votes)
    You dont HAVE to : (10 votes)
    33 %
    You really should its polite : (8 votes)
    27 %
    It doesnt matter one way or the other : (12 votes)
    40 %
  • Post # 3
    Hostess
    18644 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I would do them since you are getting married on a holiday weekend.  Airfare will be more expensive and people might make other plans if you don’t tell them in advance.

    Post # 4
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    5891 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2012

    i think if you have a lot of people coming from way out of town or it is a holiday weekend, then they are a good idea.  otherwise, they can be cute, but definitely not necessary, especially if one is on a budget

    Post # 5
    Member
    2781 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    You don’t have to but I would probably send an e-STD in this case. 

    Post # 6
    Member
    617 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I agree with MissAsB. Since you are getting married on 9/4 I think it’s probably a good idea to Save-The-Date Cards.  However, if you are having a smaller wedding and most people already know the date, then I don’t think you have to.

    Post # 7
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    10367 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I think not sending Save-The-Date Cards will mean that you have fewer people attending your wedding. It’s really good to give people the heads’ up, especially for holiday weekends.

    Post # 8
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    948 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    My family had no idea what they were when they got them in the mail (they thought they were our invitations).  Our friends knew and appreciated getting them.  We’re having our wedding on a holiday weekend and 40 families will be coming from out of town. 

    If you have many guests from out of town, it’s nice to send them out to give advance notice, especially since it’s a holiday weekend. 

    Post # 9
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    499 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    Save-The-Date Cards aren’t necessary or required by any rule. In fact, they are a relatively recent trend in weddings that has just really taken hold. If you decide not to do them, I would make sure you spread the word by mouth as far as you can. But in the end it’s totally up to your personal preference.

    Post # 10
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    376 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I’ve now gotten them for about 1/2 the weddings I’ve been invited to in the last few years. I appreciate them, ESPECIALLY if they’re planning for a holiday weekend. My cousin got married on the July 4th weekend, didn’t send Save-The-Date Cards but did call all of the Out of Town guests to let them know the date about 4 months before the wedding. 

    If you don’t want to spend the money, or think your family would be confused, either use word of mouth or an evite to spread the word. You could also set up your wedding website w/ the date, and send the link to friends and family. 

    Post # 11
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    401 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We aren’t doing them. For a holiday weekend I would consider sending them to out of town guests and spreding the date by word of mouth.

    Post # 12
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    9056 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2010

    STD’s aren’t necessary.  However, people have busy lives that book up fast these days.  If you want to be confident that all the guests that would choose your wedding over other plans will be aware that it’s happening and have the chance to do so… Save the Dates are for you 🙂

    Post # 13
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    12 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I am having the same problem, we are planning our wedding for that same weekend. Still can’t figure out if we need Save-The-Date Cards or not! =(

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