(Closed) To take pictures before the ceremony or not????? That is the question :)

posted 7 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
2701 posts
Sugar bee

We are taking pictures before the ceremony. I want to be able to see the difference between the antsy, can’t wait to get down the aisle “before” ones, and the glow of the “omg we’re married” ones after. Believe me, nothing will tarnish the moment he sees you walking down the aisle to him.

Post # 4
1561 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I did take pictures with my husband before our ceremony.  For us, it made perfect sense because our ceremony was at 530pm followed immediately by the cocktail hour.  By doing photos beforehand, we had plenty of time to get all of the shots we wanted.  

We did a private “first look” and it was great.  My walk down the aisle was still very special and emotional.  

Post # 5
2701 posts
Sugar bee

We are taking pictures before the ceremony. I want to be able to see the difference between the antsy, can’t wait to get down the aisle “before” ones, and the glow of the “omg we’re married” ones after. Believe me, nothing will tarnish the moment he sees you walking down the aisle to him.

Post # 6
172 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We took pictures before the ceremony and I loved it! It was so much more relaxed knowing we didn’t have to rush and take pictures during cocktail hour. Plus we had more time, rather than just the hour. We haven’t gotten our pictures back yet though, I can’t wait to see them! I think its so much more special when its just the two of you, even though it breaks tradition.

Post # 7
1446 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We are doing ours before the wedding…at first I hated the idea, but the more I thought about it, the more I wanted to do it. On top of having more time with our guests after the ceremony, I love having that private time together before the ceremony.

Post # 8
7300 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@tdtram73: You can take photos before the ceremony without seeing each other. My friend just got married and she took all of her bridesmaids+bride photos and bride with family photos before. The groom did his photos with his groomsmen and then his family.

After the ceremony they only needed to take combined family photos and a couple of wedding party photos and some shots of both of them together. I think they were gone for 30 minutes.

Post # 9
2550 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would definitely take pictures before the ceremony.  Since we had the oppty to take pictures @ 2 different locations, we decided to do the First Look, bridal pictures, and couple pictures @ the beach location.  Then after the ceremony, we were able to take some great pictures amongst the pine trees.

Also I would suggest pics prior to the ceremony if you are outside.  Since it was quite windy @ the beach, my hair fell by the time I made it to the ceremony.  Not a biggie but it was nice to have pictures before Nature had her way.:)

Post # 10
1962 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We are kind of pressed for time and I had a hard time making my decision for the same reasons you have. Ultimately we have decided that we will be doing first look photos. I don’t think it will ruin him seeing me come down the aisle and it may help me get over my nerves a little bit. 

I don’t know if you are like me and hate taking tons of photos all at once. I get so antsy. Since we have to do photos with our families after the ceremony the choice just seemed to make more and more sense for us.

Post # 11
5788 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

We took pics before and loved it! Neither of us was attached to the idea of seeing eachother for the first time at the actual ceremony (we shared a hotel room the night before). We were both still way more emotional at the ceremony. Darling Husband cried and he did not cry at all during the first look. One thing to consider. I couldn’t really see my Darling Husband while I was walking up the aisle so it was like “oh there you are” then turn to start the ceremony. It was so nice to actually spend time talking to eachother during our first look which is not possible during the ceremony.

Post # 12
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

we took pictures before the ceremony and I highly recommend it. Your makeup and hair is fresh, your dress looks its best, etc. just make sure that you are done with pictures before people start arriving for the ceremony. Also, make sure you have touch up time after pictures before the ceremony (touch up make up, hair etc.). However, neither of us were attached to the idea of not seeing eachother before the ceremony. actually it really helped calm us before the ceremony. it was a very intimate moment when we first saw eachother and we go tto talk and stuff. it was really nice. I am so glad we did it before the ceremony!

Post # 13
10287 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

We’re doing a first look for a number of reasons…

  1. It will give us the time alone that we really want. I’ve scheduled about 45 minutes for just Fiance and I (well, and the photog) to spend together and get the pictures that are important to us. If we didn’t do a FL, I can pretty much guarantee that we won’t spend much time together on our wedding day. Once you add 75+ of your nearest and dearest into the mix, finding some alone time will be pretty impossible.
  2. I’m going to be a nervous wreck on our wedding day. I think that seeing each other before the ceremony will help me to ease some of those nerves and maybe get rid of some of the overflowing emotion that I’m sure I’m going to exude. I’m not an attractive crier, to say the least.
  3. We’re paying a lot of money for our cocktail hour and I want to be able to enjoy it. Past weddings that I’ve been in, the bridal party got like one tray of cold hor doeurves to eat while everyone else noshed on the warm, butler passed selections. This seems so ass backwards to me. I fully intend to enjoy our cocktail hour with our guests.
  4. 1 hour is simply not enough time to get all of the pictures that we need/want and I’d rather not be rushed. As well as doing a first look for ourselves, we’re also getting all of our Bridal Party and immediate family pictures out of the way beforehand. After the ceremony there will be about 10-15 minutes of formal pictures with the extended family.

As for the tradition of seeing each other for the first time as you come down the aisle, any bride who has done a FL will tell you that all of that emotion was still there. Nothing will take away that moment. 

Post # 14
1046 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

We’re doing pics before the ceremony because:

1: The special moment of me walking down the isle and seeing him? That will be just as special when its just us two.

2: The inevitable crying I will do when I see him for the first time? I can fix the make up that ruins afterwards.

3: People won’t be waiting around an hour for food while we take all our sappy pics.  Just bridal parties and bam, done!

4: I want to actually hang out with my guests at my wedding.  Not just have them be babysat while I do ‘more important things’

5: I don’t want 80 cling ons taking pics of us while the photographer tries to capture us being romantic- if we do our private pics beforehand no one will even be there to do so.

Post # 15
14569 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

We did a first look before the ceremony too.  At first he did not want to, and wanted the walk down the isle to be the first time seeing each other, but then he liked the idea of a private first look.  And he said it did not talk away from the walk down the isle *at all*, and that that moment is still different and special.  Even though we had seen each other and he knew exactly what I was going to look like in full on bridal ensemble , he was still fighting back tears as I walked toward him.

Post # 16
243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We took ALL our formal pictures before the ceremony and I am soo glad we did that.  We were able to enjoy our cocktail hour and not rush through taking pictures.  This made the day seem longer which was perfectly fine with me.  We were able to get so many good shots so I would def. advise you to do pics before ceremony and have photographer capture the “first look”

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