- 3 years ago
- Wedding: April 2015
Hey all, me and my fiance decided that we would get married in a couple months with just us and his parents in a courthouse and afterwards we would go back to his house and celebrate with family. We wanted to keep it on the downlow for now and so the only people who know about it are me and him, my mom and siblings, and his mom and dad. His siblings don’t know yet and probably wont until I go to visit for winter break.
What I’m on the fence about is if I should organize a get together with some of his friends? I kept asking if he was planning to tell his friends but he didn’t seem to interested. The reason for this is because he feels as though he’s drifted away from many of his friends and while I know they consider him still a friend he feels weird/not sure where he stands with them because they don’t hang out very often. Since we’re getting married jan 9th, I thought that I would ask one of my friends who lives in his city if she would arrange a get together at a sushi restaurant with some of his closer friends a few days before we get married to announce our plans. Do you think this is a bad idea? His mom was planning to announce our wedding plans to the rest of the family when we all get together for christmas at his brothers house so the only people who would be left to know would be our friends. I’m a little apprehensive because he’s very socially awkward and doesn’t like going out much and get tired quickly when hanging out with others. I don’t want to make him feel forced by surprising him with something like this but at the same time I know he would out right reject the whole idea because he’s shy and doesn’t want attention on himself.. I thought it would be a great idea that we could use as our announcement and a type of joint bachelor bachelorette type of thing and after food we could all go and do something. What do you think?