Post # 1
If you know or knew that SO had the ring in his possession did you tell anyone?
As of Saturday, SO has the ring (hidden somewhere) and I feel like I’m losing my mind! I don’t think he’ll actually propose for a couple of weeks, but that’s mostly just because I don’t want to get my hopes up. In the meantime, I’m going nuts! I think this is actually harder than waiting for him to get his act together and move forward, because it could literally happen at ANY SECOND.
I want to tell my sister or best friend – just to make it real, but kind of feel weird just saying “oh he bought a ring. But we’re not engaged yet.” I don’t want to come off as desperate or anything.
So, did you let your closest friend(s) know when you thought it was coming!? I would only tell 1 or 2 people if I did tell, so it’s not like I’d be running around letting the whole world know that we’ll be getting engaged soon.
Post # 3
That’s so exciting for you! I would be a big ball of excitement trying not to explode with the news on everyone I see haha.
This is a good question. I would totally want to tell too, but I think in the end, I wouldn’t. I don’t think it would be wrong if you did and it would be a really close call for me as to what to do, but I think personally, I would feel like it would take away a little bit from the special moment of telling them that he proposed. Is the surprise really important to your FI? It might also take away a little bit from him if he ever finds out you told people you knew it was there (unless you picked it out together and it was fully open that he has it, which I’m not sure of from your post haha).
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars
My FI had it for almost 2 years. He told a few people but I didn’t because I thought it would make it actually harder. To me, it wasn’t real if I didn’t tell anyone.
Post # 5
@LemonLavender: TWO YEARS?? OMG I think I would have died!! You are a much stronger lady than I am.
@jaykwellan: Yeah, I’m leaning towards not saying anything either – he does want the proposal to be a surprise, so he might be a *little* hurt if I told people about the ring. On the other hand, I know he’s told both of his brothers (and his parents know about it, too) so I don’t think it would be a HUGE deal if I said something to my sister or friend. I didn’t help pick out the ring, but I kind of snooped and found a voicemail from the jeweler. Then last night he basically told me he has it, so at this point, he knows that I know.
Post # 6
Let’s see.. I’ve told my roommates, friends, coworkers, mother, … that might be it. Oh, all of your fine folks on WB. His side of the family knows nothing though.
Mine has had the ring since Feb. He’s killing me.
Post # 7
I think you should just keep it to the Bee and don’t tell anyone IRL.
Who knows what he has up his sleeve and who it involves? 🙂
Besides, we’ll listen and understand, too… not everyone else will (like you said, you don’t want awkward questions)
Yay for you, OP!
Post # 8
It was hard as hell not to tell anyone we were engaged and ring shopping (we went together). It happened while other events happened (family events) and it was just not our time to announce our engagement to everyone, because it was this person’s bday, and this other person’s party, so we really didn’t want to steal the attention from them. We didn’t wear our rings at these events, not to get any suspicion, and it was even harder not to tell my mom, who I talk to every day.
It took almost a month before we announced (well, I did, to my sister and best friend) that we were getting married. And a few weeks more before we surprised our parents with the announcement. I was going crazy, sooooooooo hard not to tell.
I’m sure you’ll be able to wait a little while, but I understand how difficult it is. Good luck and I hope the proposal surprises you. 🙂