(Closed) To tell or not to tell?!

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

That’s so exciting for you! I would be a big ball of excitement trying not to explode with the news on everyone I see haha.

This is a good question. I would totally want to tell too, but I think in the end, I wouldn’t. I don’t think it would be wrong if you did and it would be a really close call for me as to what to do, but I think personally, I would feel like it would take away a little bit from the special moment of telling them that he proposed. Is the surprise really important to your FI? It might also take away a little bit from him if he ever finds out you told people you knew it was there (unless you picked it out together and it was fully open that he has it, which I’m not sure of from your post haha).

Post # 4
1052 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - Cedar Lake Cellars

My Fiance had it for almost 2 years.  He told a few people but I didn’t because I thought it would make it actually harder.  To me, it wasn’t real if I didn’t tell anyone.

Post # 6
1239 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Let’s see.. I’ve told my roommates, friends, coworkers, mother, … that might be it. Oh, all of your fine folks on WB. His side of the family knows nothing though. 

Mine has had the ring since Feb. He’s killing me.

Post # 7
2533 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

I think you should just keep it to the Bee and don’t tell anyone IRL.
Who knows what he has up his sleeve and who it involves? 🙂

Besides, we’ll listen and understand, too… not everyone else will (like you said, you don’t want awkward questions)

Yay for you, OP!

Post # 8
2894 posts
Sugar bee

It was hard as hell not to tell anyone we were engaged and ring shopping (we went together). It happened while other events happened (family events) and it was just not our time to announce our engagement to everyone, because it was this person’s bday, and this other person’s party, so we really didn’t want to steal the attention from them. We didn’t wear our rings at these events, not to get any suspicion, and it was even harder not to tell my mom, who I talk to every day.

It took almost a month before we announced (well, I did, to my sister and best friend) that we were getting married. And a few weeks more before we surprised our parents with the announcement. I was going crazy, sooooooooo hard not to tell. 

I’m sure you’ll be able to wait a little while, but I understand how difficult it is. Good luck and I hope the proposal surprises you. 🙂


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