- 4 years ago
- Wedding: July 2014
I’ve gotten some fantastic feedback the past week as I have been trying to put pieces together for next year! So another question for the Bees….
Scenario: We are eloping 7/2014 to Vegas. We are having FI’s family (4 people), and 3 friends of mine. (BIG formal reception to follow in 2016 in Virginia.) We are doing a small chapel ceremony and have decided on a cake/champagne reception. The rest of the time we are there, we will have activities planned but they will all be Dutch-Treat (those currently attending are completely in agreement with this plan).
I went to HS in Cali. Most of my friends still live within 8 hours (or less) of Vegas. They have been friends for 20+ years. Most won’t have the money to attend our 2016 event which is in Virginia. I don’t have a good relationship with my family, so my friends have always filled that void in my life.(FI’s friends are all located on the East Coast.)
Cost is a big factor in all of this.
The problem lies therein:
1) How do I choose which West Coast friends to tell about Vegas? If any?
2) I know if I tell them all, I could wind up with 20+ people in Vegas. I care about them all, but that begins to add-up (even for a cake/champagne reception).
3) If I don’t tell any of them, then I know some will have hurt feelings because I was so close (in distance) to them and didn’t let them know so they could celebrate with us.
Should I just bite-the-bullet, turn this into a DW, and invite my West Coast peeps (being VERY clear that there is only a c/c reception)? Or should I risk hurt feelings of many people by not saying anything at all? If I wasn’t so concerned about the cost (20 people can very quickly escalate to 40… which at $16 a person can be quite expensive!) I would invite everyone who wanted to attend.