Post # 1
For those of you lovely bees who are not expecting a Christmas proposal….
First of all, I’m with ya sister!
Second of all, does your SO ever say something like this regarding a Christmas proposal….
“Why would I ask you on Christmas when you know I never do anything that is expected or anything like other people do?…”
1. It’s sweet because he really wants it to be original, and I know he says this so I am not disappointed (that is much appreciated) but….
2. It silenty drives me nuts because you just want to say, “Why not be like everything else just this once please? 🙂
I have to hold out longer… I’ll hang in there – just had to get that off my chest! Don’t get me wrong, I am very happy for all the well-deserving bees that will have their special time during the Holiday – you all deserve it! I am just bitter and slightly jealous 🙂
Post # 3
@butterflylove: awww I feel ya! We don’t really talk about it. Neither one of us is in a stable/decent pay job right now. So I just don’t expect it. He doesn’t have to say anything, I just know. ;P
It’ll be a nice surprise when it does come though! Hang in there 🙂
Post # 4
Yup. My SO said he would never do it on a holiday or a day that would be an obvious. All I can think is why the h*ll not?!
Post # 5
I’m with you! He has told me he wouldn’t do it on a holiday, because it’s too “predictable.” pshh like I care!
So, lets just try to focus on the other things we love about the holidays, that’s what I try to remind myself to do. I’m seeing my family, eating delicious food, doing some traveling, giving my dog his fun new Christmas toy…
Post # 6
I would almost rather not have it on Christmas or Valentine’s Day. (I’d be OK with New Year’s, though!)
In some ways it’s kind of a relief to not expect it. I don’t think he’s going to pull a bait-and-switch either (and surprise me even though I’m 99.999% sure it’s not coming) so I can just relax and enjoy the vacation for what it is.
Post # 7
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rosehill Community Center
My boy asked what I wanted, and I gave him a look and said “you know,” and then he said “you’re not getting that for Christmas” so I told him I didn’t expect it… On one hand, I would rather not have a holiday proposal, I want as many days to celebrate as possible, but on the other hand, it would be nice to just get on with it and stop waiting!!!
My only thought is maybe when they say something like this they’ll do it a day or two before or after the holiday?
Post # 8
My SO said the same thing. No holidays or special occassions. Before he told me this, I was racking my mind trying to figure out the next “special’ date in the next few months…there are no birthdays, anniversaries, or holidays (other than Vday) he would never do it on Vday..lol Then i realized i had to think simplier….this is a man afterall and they (at least most of them) don’t tend to over think things. So I figure: what does he need to get the ring? : money When will he be able to get the money?: Gee…tax season and bonuses in Feb. That makes the most common sense to me at this point. Im convinced it will happen on some random day of the week that i would totally be unprepared for. It would be awesome if he did do it on Christmas though.
Post # 9
@ butterflylove: My SO told me it would be awkward to propose on Christmas because my previous engagement (we did not get married) was done on Christmas Eve. I totally understand where he is coming from, but really I COULD CARE LESS :)) I am tired of waiting.
I do think that the SO’s know that it drives us mad and they try to throw us off because they do not want us to know or suspect when it is going to happen. I think that a lot of us waiting bees will get a Christmas or NYE proposal from the SO’s that said they would not do it.
Post # 10
I was SUPPOSED to have a Christmas proposal… BUT my bf let it slip. He then informed me that he was going to push it off for a while. 🙁 but he keeps dropping hints that it was coming. The other day he was.talking about putting our engagement on facebook. I told him I wanes to wait a while to put it on facebook so we could tell all off our family. He said that he wanted to do it in front of my family. The only time my family is together is Christmas. He even talked about ordering a present with his moms credit card (I have his banking info so I can check it for him. Typical man. Does not want to keep up with his own banking) So… I’m kinda expecting it still but don’t plan on it happening. Good luck to all the bees. 🙂
Post # 11
yeah my bf has said he wouldn’t propose around a holiday, which I kind of get but at the same time, I always have that slight hope that I just can’t get rid of…
today he gave me some more clues that a proposal was definietly NOT in the works for christmas (as if I needed more). its gotten to the point where I want to say “OK I get it! You’re not proposing now! No need to keep reiterating that”
I love Christmas, but can’t it just get here already?
Post # 12
My SO is exactly the same. He’s all about being original and does nothing that is expected of him. Although I would love an xmas or anniversary engagement, it’s just not his style, and at the end of the day that spontaneity is one of the things I love about him.
Post # 13
@butterflylove: Yep, this is exactly what he says. So, you know, no Christmas, no New Year’s, no Valentine’s day… ugh. And his brother is getting married in March so he probably won’t propose then, either. Looks like I’ll be waiting until April-May for mine. And it is so nice that they want to make it special and surprise, but…I’m so impatient! 🙂
Post # 14
Yep no holiday b/c of the surprise factor. Hell, a random date in the middle of the week would make me suspicious.
At this point, anything he does will surprise the hell out of me.
Post # 15
@butterflylove: ohhhh i’m with you!! I said i wanted a ring in my stocking and he said “Isn’t that kind of corny on Christmas?” I said no Valentines Day is corny. And he said “Well you’re not getting a ring for Christmas.”
BUt thats the only thing i want!
I’ll keep waiting. I hate it. lol
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2014 - Ontario, Canada ♥ EDD- April 2016
I really thought I was going to get it on Christmas Eve but he told me it wouldn’t be happening over the holidays (because he saw I was getting my hopes up). Oh well, at least it’ll be more of a surprise haha. He always said he didn’t want to do it on a holiday so it was kind of dumb of me to assume he would do it on Christmas Eve 😉