(Closed) To the guests of my wedding that are already complaining what do I wear

posted 6 years ago in Dress
  • poll: How do you pick what you are wearing when you are a guest of a wedding?
    I look at the invite and the date and location and dress what I think is appropriate : (34 votes)
    85 %
    I call the bride and ask what she want me to wear : (2 votes)
    5 %
    I wait until the last minute and throw on something clean and hopefully decent : (3 votes)
    8 %
    You can wear Jeans everywhere these days right? : (0 votes)
    Other : (1 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Haha, I may borrow this when the time rolls around for our Sunday jazz brunch reception! Cute dresses.

    Post # 4
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    9824 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    …. aren’t people supposed to ask what you’d like them to wear? I’d find answering questions much better than having people show up in jeans and a tee shirt.

    Post # 6
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    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @KatyElle:  ditto! I’d rather they ask what to wear than show up in something completely inappropriate. To me it’s no different that bees posting questions about what shoes, accessories etc to wear. They are looking for your opinion and your approval.

    It can be frustrating when you add it to all the other questions, but, in the big picture, no big deal.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @unixfairy: I agree. It’s a wedding. People should expect to dress appropriately!

    Post # 8
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Actually I thought most brides need to say how fancy or how not fancy the wedding will be in order for the guests to know how to dress. Maybe u can put that info up, dont know about the pics, but at least the description of the attire preferred. Maybe?

    My wedding is not fancy at all. So Im telling my family and friends its not a black tie affair.

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I also feel that people should know what to wear at that stage in their lives. But who knows, maybe they’re just not used to a “garden” wedding. Perhaps they’re more used to the traditional churh–>ballroom wedding and just want to make you happy? But if it were me and I was confused what to wear, I’d probably just google “what to wear to garden wedding” rather than ask the bride cause I would feel embarrassed not knowing…Embarassed

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    do you know where the green dress is from? its adorable

    Post # 11
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    Buzzing Beekeeper

    We’re in a very different time than it used to be back in the day. Even though it might seem like common sense, a LOT of people really don’t know what’s appropriate to wear out to the theater, nice restaurant, wedding. Men used to wear suits daily, women mostly wore dresses. Our culture has become much more casual. So it might be a little exasperating, but it’s just one of the givens of hosting an event where you’d like people to follow a dress code.

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper

    Honestly? If you did put up those dresses as examples of what to wear, I wouldn’t pick any of them. They look really casual to me or more like office attire.

    Post # 14
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I put a little excerpt on our wedding website, seriously. Under Guest Information.

    It reads:

    Attire Information

    Our wedding is neither a formal nor informal affair, so we will call it Semi-Formal. Please dress comfortably but nicely. Think Easter Sunday or Garden Party. Remember, you will be photographed by our awesome photographer!

    Post # 15
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    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Though I am now totally thinking your idea is great. Lol. I almost want to put up pictures. But then, the ones that NEED to see it (ahem) are the ones that probably never looked at our website or STD.

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    I don’t think there is anything wrong with asking what to wear, there are so many different types of weddings these days – I’ve been to formal black tie weddings and weddings where shorts and flip flops were appropriate.  I would appreciate that people are trying to make sure they are dressing appropriately, rather than just hazarding a guess!  FWIW I had a guest show up in jeans to my wedding and while he was an idiot, I would have definitely preferred he had given a crap and asked me…

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