(Closed) To the ladies that had a wedding and regret not eloping!

posted 9 years ago in Elopement
Post # 32
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116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wanna elope…this wedding planning is soo NOT my thing. Good luck with whatever you decide.

 

@misskoala: lol currently I feel EXACTLY the same way you did

Post # 33
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1618 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Elope!  When I think of how much money we spent on our wedding, I kinda want to puke a little bit.  While my wedding was gorgeous, everything went relatively smoothly with family, and just about everything went as planned, I still felt a little bit of a let down after it was over.  I thought, “ALL this planning, obsessing, money, diy’ing, family coming from all around the world…. ALL this just for ONE day?  Not even a whole day, but a half a day!”  In hindsight, as lovely as it was, it didn’t live up to my expecations and it didn’t seem worth it.  If I could change it, I would take the money I spent and go around the world to visit all the family that came rather than have them come to me all at once.  I barely had time to visit any of them for very long and having them all here at once was very stressful.

So to recap: wedding was very nice, but not nice enough to justify 12 thousand dollars spent for half a day.

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I wanted to elope, but Fiance was against it. He feared I’d regret it, and thought friends and family should be there with/for us. We still have just under 8 months until the big day, and each day we get closer, I regret having the wedding.. I’m not good in front of crowds, I can’t make a decision to save my life.. it’s all just one big headache for me.

Post # 35
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

oh god, this thread is making me consider it now too!

BUT, my FI’s family has already bought their flights from back East, and we really do want a wedding… just not a BIG wedding. somehow the guest list keeps growing, like a science experiment on mold.

 

Post # 36
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162 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

We are eloping and i CANT WAIT!!!!!!!!! (0=  And this thread really took away any doubt I may have had!!  Thanks bee’s (0=

Post # 37
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391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m so tempted.. we can’t find anything in the budget we have because of the area we live in.  The only problem with eloping (like cruise wedding) for me is not having my grandparents and some close friends we’d love to have there because of their finances.

I agree with Nasbury… this thread is really giving me the confidence to do it!

Post # 38
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300 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’m surprised so many married bee’s are saying elope! All my friends that I’ve talked to say that yes it’s so stressful and eloping sounds so good but the wedding itself is SO GREAT it makes it all worthwhile! That’s what I’m holding onto! Also my planning hasn’t been *too* stressful, yet…. 😉

Post # 40
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391 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

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@Mr.Smithsgirl:  YESSS! That is what we’re thinking of doing!  I was stuck on having our parents and grandparents with us but the cruise out of NYC is a happy medium!

Post # 41
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966 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I really did want to elope.  Or at least have a small, very small group of family and friends run away with us.  In the end I was convinced by my husband that we couldn’t because his family would be devestated.  I only regret not eloping slightly.  I did have a wonderful time (and I didn’t stress leading up to the wedding) and I know everyone really enjoyed being a part of our celebration.  So I guess the “big” wedding was actually worth it.  I have told my husband though, that we are doing a vow renewal so I get what I originally wanted.

Post # 42
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117 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Ug, my wedding is 3 weeks ago and I am wishing that we just eloped with this money and stress of planning. I feel like I am just planning an eloborate party for all of my friends and family.

I wish we could just have spent the money on a trip to Europe and gotten married there and then came back and had a nice dinner with everyone.

I am reconsidering everything but looks like we would save $6K but would lose about 4k at this point. I am able to scale back on a few things.

Post # 43
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I luckily (or unluckily) have family that would not have been devastated in any way shape or form if we eloped.  I think it’s actually preferred by my family.  Saves them all money, time and vacation days.  we considered it from the get go, but I thought I didn’t have a wedding my first time around, it was time to go through all that. 

Then I think about the money we almost spend on a wedding (cancelled it with 120 days to go).  You put out all this money to hopefully give a good time to family, when they are not going to be anywhere near as excited as you and your Fiance.  I’m thinking now the money should go towards you as a couple!  Then every decision about everything is because you want it there.  Nothing wrong with that!

Post # 44
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@2bMrsG:  What kind of set-up did you do in Vegas? Just the two of you or did anyone go along?  Been looking online for simple packages and debating taking a long weekend to Vegas to get married and then having a reception sometime soon after back home for everyone.

Post # 45
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114 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Wow, I gotta thank you guys so much. My Fiance wants to have a very small wedding with only people we talk to on a daily basis and I was disappointed becauase I wanted to have the whole big reception thing. However, reading this thread has really made me at peace with the small wedding thing. Money saved, special people around us only, the entire day about US… what could be better?! 😀

Post # 46
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m seriously considering it. Its only been 2 months and i’m going out of my mind. I can’t imagine doing another 14 months like this. But at the same time If i’m gonna elope i’m gonna run off to hawaii or something and have a nice honeymoon and I can’t even afford to do that yet! I mine as well plan a stupid wedding! yes i just called my wedding stupid. Just a formality at this point. Its expected we are going to be together. 4 years and living together out of state. Just make it official already! no one even cares! I feel like I’m trying so hard to make it something its just not. 🙁 I just want one real wedding. I don’t want to wait for a vow renewal.

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