(Closed) To the ladies that had a wedding and regret not eloping!

posted 9 years ago in Elopement
Post # 47
Member
6114 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

View original reply
@Kate0558:  Kate, so you want the full on wedding event now, but don’t have the funds to?  Is that the main stress?

Post # 48
Member
1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

deep down i want a real wedding… But our funds for it are tight and near impossible to find a cheap enough place/vendors. and having no support/recognition at all is just making it worse. This isn’t what I thought a wedding would be like. I expected my family to be there for me. but i guess i’m just too late.

Post # 49
Member
6114 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

My family was not there for me, but they had issues of their own to deal with.  My dad is dying, my sisters each had a baby, they all live 1500 miles away.  I did not expect much out of them and never had. 

It’s those unmet expectations that hurt the most.  Even when I didn’t expect much, it still hurt, but my wedding is just not a priority.  I have to accept that and I have.  There is so much else going on with them.

What elements of the “real wedding” do you want most?  Could they be part of an intimate wedding (unless the element is having 300 guests!)?

Post # 50
Member
894 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have always wanted a big, fairytale wedding and with that being said, if I could back out now and not lose a dime we would be getting married on the beach with maybe 10 people around. Even if my day turns out to be exactly how I want it will not be worth all of the stress and tears it took to get there. I hate to be negative but, it’s the honest truth.

Post # 51
Member
1676 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

We went to the courthouse. It wasn’t really running off to elope, but it was a similar experience. I have never regretted it, and neither has my DH. I never dreamed of a big wedding, but our parents and grandparents tried to guilt us into it. I started looking at what it would cost and found out that it would be outrageous to have the type of event I would want. If was going to do it, I would want a more formal event which costs crazy amounts of money. Even if I did something small and casual it would still be thousands. No way I could stomach that, especially considering it wasn’t even important to me. We took pictures (even though it was several months after we got married), and that was the part I wanted most. Like PP have said, the thought of spending all that money has always (and still does) make me queasy, and that’s not a feeling I wanted to connect to getting married. 

Post # 52
Member
43 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Wow reading all the posts here…I am starting to think this IS the way to go.  My friend suggested it after I told her about the expense.  Our deposits have been made and we were having a small celebration to begin with but still I think this is a viable option.  I have been to many celebrations and talked to the couple afterwards and so many of them HAVE regrets about the expenses to the point where the debt itself is causing problems in their marriage!  For me it is a time factor.  I am a college prof who is gearing to go back to school to study medicine.  I am thinking I can justify a school debt but a “one day party debt”,  I am not so sure about.  Thanks to everyone for their posts here.  

 

Post # 53
Member
2 posts
Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2012

View original reply
@lilsweetie:  how did that work out becuase we are thinking of doing that.:>

The topic ‘To the ladies that had a wedding and regret not eloping!’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors