(Closed) To the married bees… What was important to you after the wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
Post # 3
4822 posts
Honey bee

I am really glad we did a first look because the walk down the aisle and the ceremony is so emotional and it goes so fast that looking back I barely remember it, but I remember very well those few minutes we had with just us.

I love the photography

I loved getting ready with my girls while things were still calm

I am glad we wrote our own vows.

I wish it didnt go by so fast. 

I wish I ate my own food that I planned

I wish I spent more time mingling. I know I talked to a ton of people, but as I said it went so fast that I think the fact that I danced a ton made it go by even faster. I wish I had forced myself to sit at a table.



Post # 4
5920 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I wish we would have taken a little more time alone together after the ceremony.  I felt like we were around other people so much, I wish we would have just taken a few minutes to have some quiet time.

Post # 6
2495 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I loved doing a first look!!  That was the best decision we made.  Walking down the aisle and the whole ceremony was a blur, but that hour of just us and our photographer (who was also a friend) was precious.

I am so glad we invited the people we did.

I wish we could have danced more, and I wish our dang sparklers worked better than they did!!

Overall, I wouldn’t change a thing!

ETA:  Ohh… our vows definitely were a good thing too!!  I loved them.

Post # 7
1356 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m so glad we splurged on video.

I wish I had settled nerves better, so I could have enjoyed my dinner!

I wish I would have absorbed the night before. The videographer didn’t get a lot of footage of people just enjoying themselves, and I forget all of it already.

Post # 8
1826 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I second the first look – I am so glad we had that time together and am also so glad we got nearly all of our photos out of the way before the ceremony and reception.

I’m so glad DH and I took the time to eat our meals – it helped keep our energy up throughout the night and the food was awesome!

I’m glad we put together a play list for the DJ as our dance floor was never empty and everyone raved about the music – from the 80 yr olds to the teenagers.

I wish I hadn’t worried so much about the little details – no one even noticed the majority of them and they had absolutely no bearing on our enjoyment of the day.

I’m glad we hired an amazing photographer.

I’m glad we did an Anniversary Dance as that was one of the most touching moments of the evening.  

I’m glad we didn’t do a choreographed first dance as those few minutes on the dance floor were incredibly intimate and romantic.

Post # 9
5842 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

Lets see… I loved our first look, loved our ceremony (it was very personal), loved dancing with our friends/family

I wish we’d visited our guests as a couple, we decided to divide and conquer at some point

I wish we’d made it to our photobooth, somehow it completely slipped our minds

I’m grasping for things I wish I’d done, a few months later all I remember is it was amazing. I know everyone says it but seriously the little details aren’t what you notice that day.

Post # 10
3367 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

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@lefeymw:  Wish I’d done that for the very reason you mentioned…this, this, this, this, this and that! LOL  You took the words out of my mouth.

The best memory of my wedding was saying the vows.  I wish I had realized, in the days of planning leading up to it, how beautiful it was really going to be.  I wouldn’t have worried about so many other things, because after that moment they really didn’t matter anymore. 

Post # 11
444 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

So glad we:

-had the vendors we had..they were super awesome! 

-We had a unique first dance and my awesome brother officiated our ceremony..these two were super memorable to my mom! 

-I’m glad we picked the menu we did as everyone loved the food..

-we also surpised our guests with a sweet bar (we got married on the sweetest day!) and our guests really enjoyed the treats we had (all our favorite pastries and candies!). 

-we also had a professional photo sessions (not a photobooth)..our guests took pictures with us as they come in and these photos were later printed and passed out to our guests during dinner! They got to take them home!

-we had a same day edit. Hubby loves it and watches it religiously! Our guests who couldn’t participate in our two tea ceremonies and walk down the aisle got to see it at the reception. 🙂

Wish we had more time:

to talk to our guests

go to the bar (we had an open bar!),

not gotten so buzzed right before our first dance (though it is memorable because of the goofs :p)

and time to enjoy our meal..which everyone said was soooo good! 

We lost our cake topper, which was dear to us..so should have someone take care of it!


Post # 13
7581 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

The sweetheart table. It allowed for us to spend time alone and to take it all in. 

We also went to the 2nd half of cocktail hour and greeted everyone then, so we actually got to eat, instead of running around from table to table saying hello during dinner.

Post # 14
7605 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Great thread, I keep refreshing this one, too, for more ideas.  I hadn’t really thought about attending our own cocktail hour, but it sounds like an awesome idea if we can swing it. 🙂

Post # 15
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m glad we did not do a first look.  Locking eyes with him and seeing all the emotion on his face when I walked towards him is  agreat memory.  I don’t think it would have had the same intensity and emotion if we had done it before hand.

I wish that I had slowed down getting dressed.  I felt a little rushed and I wish I had just taken a few minutes by myself to sit in the quiet and think before all the excitement started.

I wish I had tried on my dress the day before because my number one bad memory is that my dress was too loose and the bodice kept collapsing forward and it reaaaaally shows in the pictures.

I’m really glad that once the day came, I just stopped worrying.  I didn’t worry about centerpieces or flowers or anything.  I just let it all be what it was and laughed and smiled the whole day.

Post # 16
4581 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m really glad we got to do a candy buffet and I’m so thrilled with how my flowers came out. I’m also glad we took the time to sit and eat our food and cake!

What I wish we had done a little differently would be giving our DJ more direction (he started our entrance songs at the beginning instead of the time I specified in my notes) and maybe not letting our friends and family hang around while we did our first look. They didn’t seem to know where else to be so I let them watch from a distance but I kind of wish we had that moment to ourselves.

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