Post # 1
how did you manage to keep it together on your wedding day?
The closer it gets the more I fear, I’m def going to cry and def going to mess up my makeup. I know it’s okay to cry at my wedding and ppl will understand, etc. etc. but I would like to keep it together as much as possible. It’s not just about my fear of ruining my makeup but also doing the ugly cry on my day lol.
My dad and my history is long so I won’t get it into it. But he very rarely talks about my mom anymore. I just graduated 2 days ago. He hugged me the tightest he has since the moment mom died and told me mom and he were proud of me. And then came the tears! It took just those few words for me to lose it.
Thus why I’m worried on my wedding day he will say something in reference to mom and I’ll lose it again. It’s been 6 years since she died but for some reason in certain instances when my family talks about her being proud of me or if she were here…..yada yada yada…..I’m a mess.
So I’m curious how other brides got through it? Tips?
Post # 3
I’d love to know this too. Dress shopping was hard enough. :/
Post # 4
My mom passed away almost 15 years ago from cancer…
The way I got through it was to have my daughter and my sister help me along the way. I won’t lie, it is tough, but the day goes by so fast that you probably won’t have a lot of time for tears. I did incorporate my mom into the ceremony and the reception though; subtley because I didn’t want anyone to get all teary eyed about missiing mom and take away from the happiness of our union as husband and wife. I put a special poem just for her in our programs and her favorite all time movie was Gone With the Wind, so I had Tara’s Theme played for our recessional and I had the words to Tara’s Theme listed in our program. Also, instead of specific colors for our wedding, I had a color pallette, so I was able to incorporate her favorite color and flower into the reception by making my own napkins with a little bit of yellow and some roses mixed in. My bouquet and the girls bouquets were also roses. I know she was watching over us and I know she was happy. I can’t explain why; I just know. It really helped me get through the day, just knowing that I had incorporated some of her favorite things into the ceremony and reception. She would have also loved my gown because it was very Gone With the Windish 🙂