- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2002
This is my story:
Considering I didn’t get engaged until I was 35, you would think I would have had some idea of what kind of ring I wanted, but I didn’t. I had really never thought about it much, and never really knew a lot about jewelry.
When my (now husband) and I started looking at rings, I was overwhelmed by the choices. All I really knew was that I wanted a round diamond.
I spent so much time looking…my husband started to lose patience with me.
I finally found something I really liked.
Soon after that, my husband suprised me with a super sweet proposal during a well planned and special evening. But, when that ring box opened, my heart sank. I so did NOT love the ring!
I had never seen the setting I picked with a round stone in it (my mistake!). And, quite frankly, I really didn’t like the setting after seeing it again 🙁
I hid my disappointment, but not for long. Soon after our engagement I sort of mentioned that I didn’t really love the ring. My husband was so upset with me! He could not understand how after he went to all the trouble to spend all that $$ on something I picked out….I wasn’t happy. He was not at all happy about the idea of getting something different since that was the one he proposed with (he is the sentimental one).
I realized that I was stuck with the ring (unless I was willing to upset him even more). I spent all my time looking at other women’s rings, looking at rings on line, in magazines, etc. Becoming more upset with myself for picking the “wrong” thing…and upset with him for being upset with me about it (so crazy, I know!) This went on for what seemed like forever!
We have now been married for 10 years. We have a house and two kids. Life is so crazy, busy! Prior to our 10th anniversary my husband told me that for my gift he would like me to pick out a new setting / set. He said he wants me to have something that I will love. It occurred to me that I could not remember the last time I looked at someone else’s ring longingly, or looked at my ring with the regret that i used to. But, hey…if he thinks I should get a new ring…I am in!
So, I have been in the process of picking something out. I think I have narrowed in down, definitely know what style I like now. To make this affordable I will be trading in my old setting….funny thing, I am a little sad about that. Never in a million years would I have thought I would be…but this is “my” ring. My funny looking & unattractive (to me) ring. I think I am going to have a hard time parting with it…who’d of ever thunk it! Not me!!!
Anyway, not sure if there is really a point to this. But, I have read so many threads here about women who aren’t loving their rings….and I so get it! And if your guy is open to you getting something different go for it! If not, I can prominse you it WILL be okay…even though it seems like a huge bummer now. You are getting to start your new lives together and there is so much in store for you!
Good luck and congrats to all you soon to be brides!!!!