(Closed) To those who never heard of “Greenback” showers

posted 7 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Nice!  I know a lot of people who would love this type of shower!

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

AMEN! I wish more people would understand how practical this is instead of getting offended at the mere thought that the couple could possibly be asking for money instead of “stuff”

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Ugh, I hate attending showers. I’m only having one b/c my BM’s/MOH are insisting giving me one. I don’t like the argument that they are giving me a great party as a guest in regards to the shower as I would rather not attend but usually feel forced into it. Now for the wedding I wouldn’t mind that principle thought.

But saying I should remember the shower is about the couple and respect their wishes to give them money, sorry but I don’t agree. I would LOVE to be able to say this but it just sounds all kind of wrong.

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

That’s a really good point, that it’s kind of ‘rude’ for guests to demand that the bride open actual gifts at the shower they know she doesn’t need or want and will have to go through the trouble of returning. Maybe we’ve become too sensitive about this topic. I really wish I had gotten $ at my showers instead of gifts, there was very little we actually needed since I’ve been living on my own for 7 years in a small fully furnished 1 bedroom apartment, so we ended up just registering for upgrades and for our ‘eventual’ home. And it’s impossible nowadays to return anything for cash, only store credit available at 99.9% of registry stores. So you end up with a bunch of credit to stores you may or may not even be able to redeem it depending on your needs, or having to sell your gifts on Ebay for a huge loss.

As a guest, I always give cash. Usually for a shower I will give cash and a little something funny on the side. The bride ALWAYS gets super excited to receive it, and appears really appreciative that someone was thoughtful enough to give what she actually wanted..

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@jemd:    A poem begging for cash.  Charming. 

How inconsiderate of guests to try to select a gift that they foolishly think will please the bride and groom! 

 

“AMEN! I wish more people would understand how practical this is instead of getting offended at the mere thought that the couple could possibly be asking for money instead of “stuff””

Bridal couples shouldn’t be “asking” their guests for anything other than to come to the wedding and reception. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@moderndaisy:  “That’s a really good point, that it’s kind of ‘rude’ for guests to demand that the bride open actual gifts at the shower they know she doesn’t need or want and will have to go through the trouble of returning.”

OH.  MY.  GOODNESS.     

Please tell me that was a joke?

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2009

What is the significance of the umbrella?

I think I’m going with a pirate themed shower.  I’ll provide the open treasure chest and the guests can dump their gold doubloons or precious jewels in it.

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I’m pretty confident that if I told my grandma “she should give me money because it was an event for my wedding and everyone should do their best to make the day wonderful for me and that I should be the center of attention and she should realize I have so much to do and do not need to have to go returning all kinds of goods I don’t need to stores” she would slap me across the face faster than you could say selfish, and I’m pretty sure everyone else would be lined up with the same motive.

Post # 11
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Bee Keeper

@ATP2011: HaHa. For the SHOWER.

Pirate theme? Best response to anything all day. Smile

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

@MrsPinkPeony: I’m with you – if I tried to do this / claim this, without a question, my mom would want to slap me across the face and my entire extended family would recind all offers to throw a shower for me or assist with the wedding in any way, shape or form.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

I hate attending showers.  I think they are a gift-grabbing waste of time and also quite boring.  I think people having an engagement party and a wedding is a sufficient amount of money you are expecting guests to fork out for you.  

Post # 15
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t think this is a real post. 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

is it that inconceivable that cash would be preferred? Especially if the couple is already living together? And to the individual who quoted me, we can go into semantics if you like, but this thread is about gifts at showers. Let’s just go ahead and assume we are taking about (hypothetically) a shower where people may be bringing gifts for the couple. Sheesh.

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