(Closed) To those who've suffered dress regret, did you try it on again?

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
279 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I had major dress regret and went back to the store 2 more times by myself to try the dress on. Both times I was just not happy. I did the exact same thing and kept looking at my photograph and I hated how it looked.  I wasn’t sure if it was the lighting but I ended up exchanging the dress 3 weeks later.  I tried to love the dress but it was just not happening!

The price tag is what initially appealed to me unfortunatley ($449) and it was WAY under my budget.  

But I went with my gut and now I am ecstatic and in love with my new dress.

But keep in mind we are all going to look ALOT differently too when we have all our hair, makeup on. 


Post # 4
280 posts
Helper bee

I did pretty much all of the above – having bought my wedding dress a good 2 years before the wedding I was always going to be struggling with dress regret. So when it was time to pay the second installment of the dress I asked if I could try it on again. All dress regret evaporated in an instant!

Don’t forget, what you see in bridal magazines and professional photos is never what you’re going to see in pictures taken by a point and snap or cellphone camera. This thread is really good in case you’re wondering what it may look like on your wedding day: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/hey-all-you-married-ladiescan-i-see-your-before-and-after

Post # 6
7384 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I waited until it came in and then tried it on. I hated the pictures of me in the dress from the first try on (well, my face and hair in them anyway), and kept finding all of these other gorgeous dresses that I wanted to try. Not to mention that when we realized that my grandpa was not going to make it to the wedding, I really wanted to wear my grandma’s dress that she made in the 50s, and was brokenhearted that I wasn’t going to.

Eventually I realized that the dress I picked was perfect because it was exactly what I thought I’d want and looked for, and it looked amazing on me. It’s really hard to envision how you’re going to look on your wedding day when you’re trying on dresses that are too big or too small for you, without your hair and makeup done.

AND, like  @Oxfordnerd posted, that thread is amazing.

Post # 7
280 posts
Helper bee

You basically have 3 choices:

– Keep dress #1. In that case I would go back and try it on again. Do your hair, wear good make-up and try on any accessories that you may want to wear on your wedding day and see if the completed picture makes you feel better (this option worked really well for me).

– Exchange the dress for store credit and go shopping again until you find the dress of your dreams.

– Throw options 1 and 2 out the window, keep dress #1 and put it on Ebay/weddingbee classifieds, use the money to buy your dream dress.

Either way, don’t go into your wedding feeling badly about your dress!! You have plenty of time to think again and make sure you end up looking exactly the way you want to look on your wedding day. 

Post # 8
336 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

I had a very similar experience to you and @NVMox2480

I loved my original dress on me but when I went home and looked at pictures, I got a really bad feeling about it. A bad feeling that lasted for months and months and was really ruining wedding planning for me.

Dress #1 was under budget and was probably the dress I liked most the one day I went dress shopping. But that didn’t make it my wedding dress.

Eventually, I decided to let myself try on other dresses and I found the one I loved (which was over budget but, truly, by that point I had realized it was more important to me to wear something I loved with all my heart). Luckily, I was able to return the original one and get the new one.

Can you call the bridal shop and see if you can return the other one, or exchange it for store credit at least?

Post # 9
7941 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I had dress regret for all 18 months of my wedding planning. Many bees talked me off the ledge and I ended up keeping the original dress I had purchased. I did go in and try it on again and again. While I was with the dress I loved it but the moment I got home I started having my doubts again.

Fast forward to our wedding and it was the perfect dress for me. On the big day once I put on the dress I couldn’t imagine why on earth I had ever doubted myself. I looked and felt amazing and would have seriously regretted making a change.

I think there are many gorgeous dresses out there that are possibilities and so that makes the act of deciding much more difficult. There is a reason we choose the dresses we do and so we have to believe that those reasons were the right ones.

I would love to see a photo of you in your dress!


(To add my dress didn’t photograph well with the average person taking a picture. With professional shots all the elaborate beading really stood out.)

Post # 10
567 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

No I did not because the way my consultant was I knew she would try to convince me that it was still the right dress. I knew it wasnt and refused to even put it on. Best choice I ever made, because I found my dream dress the second time!

Post # 12
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think I posted on the other thread too, but I will also post on yours!

I had it down to 2 dresses, one was well under my budget the other twice the budget! The one over my budget was also from DB, and when I started searching I said I would never buy my dress there. I have just heard of and been through too many problems with them.

In the end I decided to go with the cheaper Alfred Angelo dress at another local store. I still really love it, but I wonder if I do love the other just a little more. But I couldn’t imagine blowing my budget by so much for a dress.

The DB dress was actually the last dress I had tried on that day and after I was having some dress regret, but a couple weeks later I was able to revisit the local shop and try mine on again and I knew I still loved it. And it works much better with the theme of the wedding.

I still get dress envy when I see it sometimes (a bride on Four Weddings was wearing the DB dress and it looked amazing.) but on the day I know I will feel beautiful and will be very happy.

Post # 13
528 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I hated the pictures of me trying on my dress the first time. Then I tried it on a few days ago, and I fell in love with my dress over again. 🙂

Post # 14
7941 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

@kmarie719:  I think that dress is incredibly flattering on you and I love all the lace.

Is there something specific that you don’t like? Anything you can pin point? Or do you just not like it in general…possibly because of the photo?

Post # 16
91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I re tried my on twice and still wasn’t happy.

I changed dresses and feel a million times better – I am so excited. However, I didn;t have strict budget constraints with my dress and I also agree that once hair and make up are on it will look more amazing. 

I’m glad I changed but the decision is yours aloe.

Have you found another dress? Whats the retiurn policy?

Go back in with shoes and accessories and imagine yourself on th day –  That will give ou a better and cleaer understanding of your feelings toward it


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