Post # 1
I’m getting final envelopes ready for our wedding, and just want to be sure I’ve got a handle on tipping. This is how I think tips look based on common etiquette—if anything looks amiss, I’d love thoughts on this so I don’t inadvertently shortchange someone who’s expecting a tip. Thanks!!
Photographer (solo/owner): No tip expected, but nice; alternately, give thank you gift. [10-20%?]
DJ (solo/owner): No tip expected, but nice. [10-20%?]
Musician (solo/owner): No tip expected, but nice. [10-20%?]
Baker (solo/owner): Charging delivery/service fee, so no tip expected.
Caterer (company): Gratuity is included in contract, so no tip unless exceptional.
Independent food contractor (company): Cooking one course for us independent of caterer….no clue what to do here?!? Tip 15 percent or so?
Does this seem appropriate? Thanks!
Post # 3
The way I see it…vendors seem to up their prices by 20% once the word “wedding” is spoken anyways! I didn’t know it was common to tip DJ’s, photographers, etc. Looking forward to seeing more responses.
Post # 4
That looks good. Regarding the independant food contractor, I’d consider tipping depending on the format used. If they’re a sub contractor with a bigger company that you’re using I’d consider 15%.
Post # 5
Thanks—the independent contractor is totally independent (we’re paying them directly). However, the person there will be a staff person, not one of the company owners (it’s a small family company). So I’m thinking he should still get tipped, but a little unclear on that…
Post # 6
My photographers were the owners of their company, we gave them a $300 tip on our (before discounts) $5200 package. There was no way we could do 10-20% but $300 was very generous.
DJ we tipped 10%, hair and makeup owned her own business but we tipped her 20%.
Caterer – gratuity was included in bill (and verified that staff received it, as many places dont give the service charge or gratuity to servers) but we gave the captain a $100 tip and the Catering Sales Manager a $100 gift card.
Valet the tip was included in the bill.
We did not tip the bakery, rental company or the florist as they just delivered and set up. I think all your tips looks great, is there a service charge for the independent contractor? If not, I think a small amount would be nice for the tip.
Post # 7
I’m interested in the responses to this. I don’t know what the etiquette is . . .
Post # 8
Yiiikes. We didn’t tip anyone. I honestly didn’t know it was customary. Starting to feel like Steve Buscemi in Resevoir Dogs! Whoops.
Post # 9
That seems about right. I am probably going to be tipping around those same numbers. You could also try google-ing it. That always helps 🙂
Post # 10
So if the vendor is the owner of the company than no tip is expected, is that correct? If my vendors are like this:
Caterer – tip included in contract
Bartender – tip inlcuded in contract
Photographer (owner) – no tip required
Videographer (ownder) – no tip required
Florist (owner) – no tip required
DJ (owner) – no tip required?
DoC (ownder) – no tip required?
Hair (salon owner coming to my hotel) – Do I need to tip her if she’s the salon owner? If she brings an assistant, do I only need to tip the assistant? Ahhhh!
Makeup (owner/independent artist) – Do I need to tip her?
Dessert – special dessert will be brought in and served. Do I tip here since they’re not the owners?
Tipping is so confusing!
Post # 11
Here’s a good guide.
Also. never tip the owner of a company.
Post # 12
My planner told me none of my vendors (who are all owners of their own businesses) should be tipped except the hair and makeup people and, if we appreciate the service, an extra gratuity for the staff at the hotel.
Post # 13
My father is a musician and I asked him about tipping our guitar player who is playing the ceremony and cocktail hour. He said he usually never gets tips when playing a wedding. The guitar player is charging a very reasonable rate and is getting enough money. If it was a college student who was giving us an great deal on his price then a tip might be ok but for a regular musician it is not expected at all.
Post # 14
What about officiants? We are already paying her $600 as this is her fee.
Post # 15
If we tipped our vendors these percentages, it would literally be all the money we received in gifts for the wedding, which wasn’t exactly chump change. That sounds like a little too much to me.
Our venue included tip in the price, so I think tipping the staff would be above and beyond. Our photographer, videographer, DOC, hair and makeup and florist all owned their own businesses and really jacked up the prices because of my wedding date so I felt a little uncomfortable tipping all of them. We did, however go against what you are all recommending and tipped the hair and makeup artists.
I think if any of them gave us a really good deal we might have tipped them a little as a thank-you, but we paid top dollar for everything and we were amazing to work with along the way.
Post # 16
@moderndaisy: Thank you! I was starting to feel like the lone “cheapo” bride here. The only person I tipped was my hairstylist because I always tip her. Everyone else charged $$$$ and there’s no way they needed a tip for their service on top of that.