(Closed) to tip or not to tip?

posted 8 years ago in Money
Post # 3
914 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

That’s very tacky. It’s not your fault nobody has tipped him. I wouldn’t want to tip him either.  But I would probably be nice and tip him anyways, because I’m like that.

How much is he charging you?

Post # 4
3695 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’d write back the guy who asked for a tip and say something like “Oh, I totally understand.  I hope you don’t feel slighted when you don’t get ours right away, we were going to send it with our thanks after we got the final video.”  My photog is a family friend, too, but I still wasn’t going to tip him until I saw the pictures.  🙂

As for how much, totally your call. 

Post # 5
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Wow. I cannot believe he wrote you that. Obviously no one else is tipping if he stated that to you. It would make me not want to tip. I feel that tipping is out of control. Why does everyone expect a tip just for doing their job? They should charge a fair price to make a decent wage, not pressure you to give them additional money on top of what you’re paying.

Post # 6
3373 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I didn’t tip my photog or videographer… they already received very high, fair wages and they owned their own companies. AND I paid $100 for them to eat dinner. If they had chosen to bring their dinners I would have gladly gave them the $100 instead.

A limo would normally get tipped, as well as a DJ, caterers, and anyone else that doesn’t own their own company.

Post # 7
860 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am not tipping and of the main wedding vendors, ie photog, baker ect…. but i will tip my hair and makeup girl if i am really happy with everything. Just the same as i would do if i were at the salon…

The venue and the limo add grats automatically so i dont have to worry about them.

Post # 8
258 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Boston can be pricey to begin with but we tried to tip accordingly. I would probably tip your videographer, but a little less now that he asked for it the way he did (They should put a hint on their website if that’s what they expect, not write you a personal guilt inducing email).  The amount would depend on what they were costing to begin with though – maybe %10 or $100 max? Maybe $50 max if that sounds high for your area?

Also, see if your venue/caterers offer a reduced price vendor meal.  We paid less than half price for our vendors to eat as opposed to the guests.

Our venue/caterer included the tip in their price, so we didn’t have to worry about that one.

We were married on 11/11/2011 and tipped:

Photographers $111 plus dinner (We had 2, for about 8 hours.  Tipped after received proofs back.)

Trolley driver 20% (mandated by contract)

Florist $100? (we made a lot of changes and made her work for it)

Priest $111, Alter boys $11 each (5 $2 bills and a $1 coin each)

DJ $150 plus dinner (Our best vendor.  Was AMAZING! We got compliments for months!  We didn’t plan to tip him so much but then he was so great…)

Baker of cake (not sure how much but we just rounded up the bill.  Maybe $25 extra?)

Hair/Make up – same as normally would

Post # 10
11163 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Who we tipped:

-Wedding Planner

-Photographer (he went above and beyond before the wedding and on the big day)

-Venue (already included in contract)


Who we plan on tipping:



Who we aren’t tipping:

-DJ (owns his own company and I wasn’t beyond thrilled)

-Hair and Makeup (they came to us and charged extra fees including added gratuity)

-Videographer (again, his own company)



Post # 11
914 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

As a photographer, I’ve only been tipped once. And I certainly do not expect it, nor does it bother or offend me when I am not tipped.

Post # 13
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

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@soon2bmrsf:  If they own the company, the absolutely do not need to be tipped.

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