(Closed) To tip or not to tip

posted 4 years ago in Money
  • poll: Tips??
    Yes, always tip no matter what! : (20 votes)
    50 %
    No tip if the price is relatively high for the service : (2 votes)
    5 %
    No tip if it's the owner performing services : (18 votes)
    45 %
  • Post # 2
    219 posts
    Helper bee

    I’m pretty sure if they are the owner of the business then no tip is required. You certainly still could, but not necessary.

    Post # 4
    9561 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2016

    This is what my day-of-coordinator sends out to all her clients (she sends out a really thick document, this is just an excerpt from one chapter on.. tipping!)

    We are asked a lot about business owners and if they get tipped since they get the full fee you pay. Business owners aren’t pocketing 100% of their fee (they have taxes and overhead) so if you are really pleased with their services, monetary gratuity is always a pleasant surprise. Also consider that in the end, the best tip for an owner is the time you take to write a nice review or testimony for them.

    They then go ahead and breakdown by vendor how much tip is usually given.  For stylists and MUAs they say that you tip them as if you were at a regular appointment.. 15-20%

    Post # 6
    2109 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    We tipped the makeup artists/hair stylists. Other than that… Im trying to remember. Our caterer had a tip included in the contract price (not a service fee, an 18% built in tip we were more than happy to pay). The only person we didn’t tip was our DJ and that was because while he got everyone dancing and played good music, he dropped the ball in a multitude of other big ways (played he wrong song when I walked down the aisle, played the wrong first dance song, interrupted family prayer time to ask for WeddingWire reviews and so much more). We had a tip in an envelope to give him and tore it up during the reception. I wouldn’t dream of tipping a vendor for doing a bad job. Other than that, I think everyone else owned their business and our DOC had worked with them before and told us it was clear they did not expect tips. 

    Post # 7
    1604 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2013


    Of course business owners pay expenses, I think we all know that.  BUT, they set prices.  There is no generally accepted practice of tipping owners.  And many times, wedding coordinators are part of the wedding industrial complex.  They recommend vendors, they are part of the process.  Of course many want more tipping.

    Post # 8
    13707 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Tips are almost never added to the wedding quotes.  Also be aware that a “service fee” is not a tip, unless the owner specifies otherwise.

    There’s no requirement to tip business owners.  Like other tipping, that is always up to your discretion.  FWIW, we did not tip the business owners at our wedding.

    Post # 10
    776 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2016 - Magnolia House

    They add up sooo fast! So I am tipping the MU/Hair girls even though I believe one is the owner, but I am very grateful because my catering quote already includes gratuities she made that very clear and it is in the contract. It was a selling point for her. 

    Post # 11
    434 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    Check the contract!  I believe at a minimum you are expected to tip per etiquette the caterer and specify it’s for the servers, bartender unless they leave out a tip jar,  and MUA/Hair stylist.  However just double check that the tip isn’t already built in. There’s a million of articles about this so just do a quick google search if your not sure on a specific vendor.

    Post # 12
    434 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    Oh also if you are having a church ceremony it’s usually expected to give a 10% donation.

    not sure on wedding coordinators though….

    Post # 13
    6291 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2014

    mrscorona:  I’m coming from a UK perspective where we don’t have so much of a ‘tipping culture’, but here it would be considered borderline rude to tip a business owner. A card and a great review? Yes. A monetary tip when they have set the price themselves? No. 

    We tipped the bar and wait staff, and the events co-ordinator (who worked for the venue), and that was it. We also bought gifts for a couple of people who went above and beyond, everyone else just received a card and good review (and we were also featured on a website where we reviewed and gave links to all our vendors, so, advertising too). 

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