- 2 years ago
- Wedding: April 2018
Taking the trip is a no brainer for me!
Taking the trip is a no brainer for me!
Trip! That sounds so amazing! Plus I think if I settled down and skipped the trip I’d regret and resent it.
In your exact situation at 25, just married, etc, I’d HANDS DOWN take the trip!!
Well this seems (fairly) unanimous! I’m glad I asked – sometimes with all my friends having children it makes me feel like I’m making the wrong decision by traveling. I know going on the trip is the right idea but sometimes it’s hard to get TTC off of my mind!
I guess I’ll just have to push through the baby fever until we’re back home! Won’t be an easy task! But you’re all right – this is good timing with us still being in our 20s. I’ll just have to live vicariously through all of you who are TTC!
sassybeee : I don’t think you’ll regret it. My sister did this with her then-boyfriend (now husband and baby daddy)… they lived in Singapore for 6 months while he was finishing graduate school, then they spent 6 months traveling all around southeast asia and india. It sounded freaking amazing. And now they have a baby and are all settled, but it was a life-changing trip.
I’ve traveled a lot too, and getting the chance to really immerse yourself in a bunch of different cultures and have complete freedom to go and do wherever is really really special… not an opportunity that the vast majority of humans on the planet have access to. And let’s be honest, it’s way better to do it when you’re young and fit and adventurous than when you’re retired. Jump on it!
Definitely the tripppp! Putting off TTC for 9 months is nothing in the big scheme of time, but the trip will be one to remember. Plus imagine if you just stayed home and but didn’t get pregnant for 9 months anyway.
Unless you have known fertility issues I don’t know how this is even a question. Enjoy!!!
This wouldn’t even have me hesitating! I go with the trip, no question. I think you would really regret it if you don’t.
I would choose to have children, we decided to try and conceive for our one year anniversary dinner we are hoping to be pregnant by the end of the year. I understand the trip of a lifetime which is almost one year of travelling but considering you are going to Italy for a wedding for me that’s already a trip if a lifetime in itself
If I was in your shoes, I would 100% take the trip. And this is coming from someone who is nearing the 12 month mark of TTC. You have time on your side, you’re young 🙂 DO IT! Sounds like an amazing trip, way too good to pass up!
Especially given your age, I want to say trip, but in reality I’m not sure what I would do. It’s interesting because I’m considering re-applying to a fellowship abroad and it lasts 9-10 months too, and I’m torn on whether or not to spend time and effort all over again on a very competitive and time consuming application. Although my reason to stay is more career and financial related than baby related, but it’s still a hard decision. Good luck with whatever you decide!
Whether you decide trip or baby, hope you have enough savings saved up to cover your decisions :).
EDIT: Just saw that you posted an update saying you were probably going to go with the trip option. Hey, who knows, perhaps a year expanding your worldview will make you guys better parents in the future 🙂
At 25/27, you absolutely have time for both! Don’t worry about what your peers are doing, most won’t get an opportunity like this. I’ve never had baby-fever, but I’ve felt similar angst for other things, so I imagine it’s creating some anxiety. Life is long, and if you start TTC by the time you’re 27, you’ll still have a good 8 years to make babies before the likelihood of fertility issues begins. Even more if you don’t have any issues.
As im typing this, I’ve had a thought….would it be worth it to make a doctors appt and ask if you can have any general testing done to make sure there aren’t any fertility issues that need dealing with? If you’re given the all clear, it might help you relax/enjoy your journey even more!
I would take the trip. No doubt. In fact, my aunt told me, when I was 17 (and she was exhausted after the birth of her 2nd baby) to be sure and travel a lot before I had kids. She said that she was glad she had because she didn’t feel like she had missed out on anything now and she was happy to be a Stay-At-Home Mom with her babies. I’m really glad I listened (including a 6 month stint in Europe and Africa in my 20s). It’s possible to travel WITH children (my mother did it often, with two) but it’s harder. I would take the trip all day every day. Especially if I was in my 20s and knew I wanted to have a baby soon afterward.
At 25 I would have absolutely 100% taken the trip, hands down. I did A LOT of traveling before TTC when I was 31. I have two children now whom I adore. We’ve traveled with them but I sure miss traveling without kids sometimes!
If health insurance isn’t an issue, you could even start “trying” during the latter part of your travels.