(Closed) To untag or not to untag – that's the question…

posted 5 years ago in The Lounge
  • poll: Tag or Untag
    Leave the tag, you're being ridiculous : (18 votes)
    32 %
    Remove the tag, the bride won't care : (38 votes)
    67 %
    I have a different opinion : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 2
    5543 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2011

    You should use the setting where you have to approve all tags before they post publicly. But I would also untag if you don’t want the pictures to show on your page. 

    Post # 3
    11467 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2015

    Untag. No reason to be haunted by pictures that bring you down. 

    Post # 5
    3035 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015 - Walnut Hill Bed & Breakfast

    Does it even alert her if she removes the tag? She might not even notice.

    If you have mutual friends, they’re going to see the photos and recognize you in them anyways.

    People know as a bridesmaid you don’t have much say in the dress.


    Post # 6
    109 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    Un-tag them! She’ll be so excited to finally have them back and up on her own profile / too distracted by her friends likes and comments on them that she will not even notice. Don’t sweat it!

    Post # 7
    1983 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Honestly I would keep them tagged. People are going to see the pictures anyway because she posted them. I don’t think in tagging should cause drama but it might.

    Post # 8
    2810 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2015 - City, State

    I voted untag because that’s what I would do!

    Post # 10
    12671 posts
    Honey Beekeeper

    I believe everyone is entitled to control over their own image online. There could be a million reasons why someone would not want a tagged photo posted. For one thing, sharing your information becomes dependent to some degree on her privacy settings, not yours. Or maybe you have  mutual friends who would be hurt  to see evidence of a party to which they were not invited. I would just untag. She is not notified and would only notice if she looks closely at the tag list again. 

    If she does ask, I would not tell her you didn’t like how you looked since that’s a reflection of her taste. 

    Post # 11
    334 posts
    Helper bee

    Don’t untag them but remove them from your timeline. This way you keep your tag but if someone goes onto your profile they won’t see them

    • This reply was modified 5 years ago by  Kelly6871.
    Post # 12
    4697 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    Its your Facebook.. You control what goes on there. If you’re uncomfortable, who cares if she gets upset, she’s the one acting a fool over Facebook. The picture aren’t being deleted from her account, just from your timeline.

    Post # 13
    5373 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I agree with Kelly6871 (: Just remove them from your timeline and leave the tag. That way no one will be able to see them on your profile. That’s usually what I do. Sometimes I do remove a tag though if I don’t want to be identified in a picture and I don’t think anyone has really noticed. I think either option would work in your situation.

    Post # 14
    6431 posts
    Bee Keeper

    MsGinkgo:  I’m always a big fan of untagging a photo that I don’t want tagged of me.  It’s annoying enough having people upload horrendous photo of me and then tag me in it, so their friends and my friends can see it?  No.  That’s why I usually just don’t take photos with people.

    Post # 15
    9544 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Personally, I would try to focus on the joy and love and fun of the day and not on how you look in the dress. Why do you think the bride likes the picture of you talking her down from a meltdown? Is it because she happens to look like Heidi Klum in that picture? Or is it because it captured a moment that was important to her and that showcased what an amazing friend that you? I would try to see that in the picture. And I’d leave the tags. 

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