Post # 1
Hi everyone! I’m torn right now when it comes to wearing a veil, and I just wanted some opinions on what others are doing. I had my first dress fitting yesterday with my mom, and while it went well, I guess I’m a little disappointed. I was expecting some *magical moment* where I’d put the dress on and feel like OMG I AM A BRIDE! Instead, I felt like you could see my stomach pooch (I didn’t have my Spanx yet since I can’t find one that works with my dress, AND I just got my period, so between the bloat and the lack of Spanx, I guess I wasn’t as flat as I’d like to be). I also felt like I looked a little linebacker-ish because I had to stand with my arms away from my body slightly so I didn’t get stuck by the pins, lol! Anyway, I do still love my dress, I just thought I’d feel a little more special and/or excited when finally putting on MY dress. So we tried the dress out with some different veils because I have been on the fence about getting one, and honestly, I hated the way every single one looked. My dress itself has a sweetheart neckline with lots of intricate beading (it’s a Casablanca 2072 for anyone who wants a reference), and I custom added cap sleeves onto it to balance out my wide shoulders/”curvy” chest (haha). The back of my dress also has really pretty beading, so I didn’t want a veil that took away from it, and honestly, all the veils felt like they were competing with the dress and I felt like I was lost between all the fabric and bling and just “stuff”. I’m also wearing my hair in a low side bun, so finding a veil that would look good with that was also hard. Anyway, I have this gorgeous hair clip with leaves and rhinestones that totally goes with our autumn wedding and matches my dress perfectly, and it looked stunning when put into my hair at my hair trial. I was going to wear the veil for photos and the ceremony, then take it off and wear the hair clip for the reception because I thought I wouldn’t feel like a bride without a veil. But now, I’m not so sure….my mom and I felt like the hair clip alone would be perfect and to just skip the veil altogether, but would I not look “bridal” enough without a veil? Is anyone else here not wearing one, and if so, what’s your reasoning (and do you still feel like a bride without one)? I just don’t know what to do!!!
Post # 2
Im not wearing a veil. And thinking back, the last 3 weddings I stood up in, the bride didnt wear a veil. My cousin wore a birdcage veil for her wedding.
I dont think you need to justify not wanting to wear a veil–you already said you feel like it competes with the dress and you have a lot going on. 🙂
Similar to you, I am adding a sparkly hair clip thing on the under side of my bun (ill try to include a sample pic) and a veil would hide that.
no veil is ok! Its personal preference!
Post # 3
amanda1auren : amanda1auren : my dress had very intricate detail like your dress and i wore a veil – something that would compliment it. i couldn’t imagine not wearing a veil on my wedding day but thats just me.
maybe try on something like this and if you have already, then maybe a veil isnt for you? you don’t need to have one
Post # 4
To veil or not to veil is a very personal choice that only YOU can make.
I have an intricate illusion back and very strongly considered no veil as I thought a veil would compete. HOWEVER, I have finally opted for a super-sheer raw edge drop veil and will remove it after the ceremony.
Post # 5
Do you have a picture of you in the dress? That might give me a little better idea.
Either way, you do not need to wear a veil. Many brides don’t wear veils, and I’m sure you will look bridal without one. I am wearing a small birdcage veil, because I really like that look. I like your idea with the clip though. That gives you a little something still without having a veil.
Post # 6
I wore a veil and LOVED wearing one. I figure that it’s the only time in my life that I will get to wear one, so why not.
My dress also had some back work, I’ll post a pic below, and I found a single tier fingertip length one that I felt went great with my dress/look. I didn’t think it took away from anything and was a great addition. I actually wore it through our First Dance and could have easily kept it on the rest of the evening.
Post # 7
I love veils so much- Not everyone likes them, but to me it makes a bride look and often feel like a bride. It depends on what you want. If you feel good without one then don’t wear one. If it makes the moment, then wear one you love
Post # 8
I have short hari and knew I wanted to veil to “look” more bridal. Also, how many other days in my life would I have gotten to wear one? I had thought of hair jewelry, flowers, clips, birdcages, fascinators, and finally settled on making my own chin length two layer veil. It was easier than you’d think, and my friend who does my hair stuck it on my head to help me cut it the right length.
Post # 9
It’s personal but I always love the look of a veil!
Post # 10
When else in your life will you wear a veil??? Because of the details of your dress, it sounds like a single layer that goes at least as long as the train on your dress would be the way to go.
Post # 11
Agre with other posters. You can wear a veil for 20 minutes and then remove it for the rest of the evening.
I originally didnt think I wanted a veil, but my dress is quite simple so I wanted to add some drama. Don’t buy from the salon, lots of affordable veils on Etsy, or you can always make your own.
Post # 12
I went back and forth a lot with this one. I ended up making my own veil. Everything I tried on seemed to cover my dress and take away from it. I finally realised it was because they were just too wide. I ended up making a sort of copy of a barely there BHLDN ankle length veil and added Swarovski crystals to it. I think it looks great and doesn’t hide any details or compete with my dress. For reference, most veils I tried were 90 inches wide, the one I sort of liked was 54, and the one I made is only 48 and narrowed to 24 before it gathers onto the comb.
Post # 13
- Wedding: September 2015 - Hotel Ballroom
I didn’t wear a veil. To be honest, it didn’t even occur to me! I think the right veil is very beautiful though!
Post # 14
- Wedding: June 2017 - Country Cottage and Gardens
Did they try placing the veil different ways? I told my consultant that I was on the fence and I think she sensed that I have non-traditional style so she suggested placing it under my updo. It totally transformed the look to me and I liked it so much better.
Post # 15
I am going to wear a veil! I didn’t want to at first but after I tried on mine I loved it! I feel so ethereal and like a bride. Also, it almost feels like I have 2 dresses since the veil covers the back detail on my dress.