(Closed) To veil or not to veil- That is the question.

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: Should I do what I want or respect my FH& parents' preferences?
    Do what you want, it's your veil! : (23 votes)
    88 %
    Wear the veil over your face, it will make your FH happy : (2 votes)
    8 %
    Other (please explain below) : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    655 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    @hisluckygirl22:  Veil tradition varies. Some say the proper tradition is for the bride to walk down with the veil over her face and the father is the one who pulls the blusher over when the bride is presented to her soon to be husband (so right at the end of the processional)

    My husband is like your fiance. He wanted to lift the blusher but i hated how it looked so i just went with a chapel veil with no blusher.

    It’s your wedding- do what you want.

    Post # 4
    3141 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Do what you prefer it’s your veil and your wedding. We were married outside and my veil didn’t even make it down the aisle as it got caught on the cement more than once so it came out …. it was funny 

    I wish they put it back in when we reached the front though, so it could have been in the photos during our ceremony 

    Post # 5
    1299 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I have a birdcage veil but im trying to figure out how to fashion it more like a fascinator so I dont have to wear it over my eyes.  If youre like me, it actually bothers your eyes, and makes them tear up.  Also I can just imagine it blowing an eyelash in your eye while you are outside and it attacking your face.  That would personally really bother me.  Its your day and you need to do what you want.  They all got their day, now you get to say how yours goes.

    Post # 6
    322 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Do want you want, lady! You’re only doing this once!

    Post # 7
    159 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    What about a compromise?

    You could try doing a birdcage veil as one person is doing. You could choose one that is long enough to cover the eyes, and perhaps bit of your nose. That way, you don’t have to worry about lipstick smudges. Plus, birdcage veils allow for greater visibility of your face so it won’t be hidden in photos.

    Then, to get the look you want — since you mentioned you liked the look of the veil flowing down your back — by wearing a longer one with the birdcage so that it hangs behind you.

    I know that I’m going the birdcage route, and I’m tossing in a bit of my quirky personality by pairing it with an Alice in Wonderland themed, pale blue mini top hat!

    Post # 8
    11422 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I had a single-layer, cathedral-length veil that I wore throughout the ceremony and also the reception. However, I added a blusher (a completely separate veil that the bridal salon ordered for me and attached to the comb of my cathedral-length veil with a strip of Velcro) to cover my face as I walked down the aisle.

    My father lifted the blusher after he presented me to my FH at the start of the ceremony, and one of my matrons of honor helped to fold the blusher back neatly over my head so that it was like a double layer over the top portion of my cathedral-length veil.

    I was married outside and had no problems at all with the blusher.  (However, I could feel my cathedral-length veil catching briely on the concrete a number of times as I walked downt he aisle. I just did my best to ignore that.)

    Here is a picture that shows the blusher.

    Would your FH be OK with you only wearing the blusher as you walk down the aisle and not during the ceremony itself?

    Post # 9
    143 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I had the same issue, I did not want it covering my face but after talking to Fiance, it was a large part of how he envisioned me walking towards him. He had compromised a lot in wedding planning and it wasnt a big deal to me so I did the blusher over my face. Although I did agonize over the decision. It was the right call, everyone loved the look, it was a special moment for my dad and I, my Fiance said I looked just as he imagined and I didnt even notice it over my face. I could see fine and was too excited about walking down the aisle that I didnt even notice it until it was time to lift it. You should do what you are comfortable with but just wanted to share my experience that it was not bad at all even though I had originally thought it might be.

    Post # 10
    143 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I also only wore it over my face just down the aisle and for about a minute and had it lifted for the ceremony. I was worried it would conflict with seeing my dress or look ghost like in the photos but it didnt at all.

    Post # 11
    1022 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @hisluckygirl22:  tradiaons vary, dependong on religion and beleifs.


    it’s YOUR day, do what you want

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