Post # 1
My SO took me ring shopping again today, which was super fun (Although, the lady behind the counter CLEARLY did not think we knew what we were talking about, as she showed me an elongated radiant cut and told me it was emerald cut….and when I tried to tell her otherwise she argued with me….). But then my boyfriend said that if I were able to hold out longer, I could have a “nicer ring”… He means like, another 6months to a year, and I could have a bigger ring.
I know that his budget (and OUR budget once the wedding is actually in question) is not huge, so I don’t want to pressure him now. But I also don’t really want a bigger “nicer” ring. I don’t even necessarily think that bigger = nicer. I tried on a huge one and I didn’t like it at all, it felt silly. I’m a really petite person, big rings look stupid on me. Anyway, I’ve found rings in his budget that suit me just fine, and are the size I would like… should I just chill out and wait anyway? Or tell him I don’t want to wait and I want the ring I picked out?
Anyone else go through a similar difficulty with waiting? I’m really impatient, and I can admit that. But I also don’t really have a need for a super expensive ring so I don’t know why I would wait for another year just to have something I don’t really want and need… does that make sense?
Feel free to tell me I am crazy. Also feel free to show me your ring, I have ring fever… <3 🙂
Post # 2
Neither you or the salesperson were wrong calling it a radiant and emerald. Radiants are commonly referred to as emeralds because they have similar shapes.
Post # 3
I’d tell him that you’re perfectly fine with a ring that’s inside the current budget! However, assure him that if he’s not quite ready, you’re fine with waiting a little longer. He might feel pressured otherwise 🙂
Post # 4
I’d tell him that you’re ready whenever he’s ready and that you will love a ring that’s in his budget! 🙂
Post # 5
becky3212 : loveandlemons : thanks ladies! I feel the same way, and I def think you’re right about making sure he doesn’t feel pressured. Very helpful, thank you!
Post # 6
Keep in mind if you need to wait 6mo-a year to afford this ring how will that affect your wedding budget? Should you get this one and have a longer engagement you might be ok or wait now and then have a shorter engagement. If you know you’ll be married and are picking out rings, you’re practically engaged anyway so I’d be okay waiting but that is just me.
Post # 7
I personally don’t like really big rings either. My engagement ring was pre-owned, around .25 ct total and cost about $200 I think, and it’s exactly what I wanted. My fiance had pointed out some more expensive, higher carat rings when we were looking, but they just weren’t me. I wore a promise ring for years that was probably about .05 ct total while I figured out how to get my divorce from my previous husband completed. I don’t believe in spending a huge amount of money on rings, I mean I think you should spend enough to have something that will last your lifetime with proper care, but ultimately it’s just a tiny bit of metal and some stones that you are buying.
Post # 8
An engagement ring should be something you love and a symbol that you two will share a life together, don’t postpone the next step in your relationship (if you both feel ready) to get a ring that you don’t even want, life’s too short to wait and what a waste of money?
I think these days with ring selfies and Pinterest people feel pressured to have a certain ring or a certain wedding, but this whole thing is about you two, so do what’s best for you:)
Post # 9
I traded down to a smaller ring and frankly, one of you could get hit by a bus tomorrow so why wait for something you’re not even sure you want? Make your lives easier and spend more time/money on the wedding if it’s important to you or just take the extra money and go on vacation.
Post # 10
Go for the one you like now, as PPs have stated, why wait to get something that you don’t want? Do it when you’re both ready and you’d be much happier IMO. And you will have more money to spend on the wedding day 🙂