(Closed) To Walk alone?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Ej88:  Personally I would choose the person that you are closest with, and it sounds like its your Uncle. While your mother’s brother might be upset, it sounds like he is not capable of doing it, and he is not close with you. It sounds like your uncle is incredibly supportive and I think thats important. Your brother is also a good option, but it sounds like you would not be very happy with that decision. I don’t think it needs to be a blood relative.

ETA: I forgot to say I’m so sorry for your loss and that you are in this position. And while everyone may be curious about this paticular detail, feel free to politely remind them that you are still in mourning and not ready to make that choice yet. You can say something about needing to mourn your loss before devoting your attention to the wedding, especially since it is still so far away.

Post # 4
244 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I’m so sorry you are going through this. It’s tough. No one can make this decsion for you, but I can tell you how I look at the situation to give you another POV. My dad passed away 4 years ago, and I have no living grandparents. My mom just assumed she would be giving me away but her and I aren’t close so I don’t really think she has the authority to “give me away”.

I finally settled on having my fiance meet me a few steps down the aisle and we will walk together. Here’s why, our wedding day is our first day as a family. He has been the man in my life since my dad has been gone, and he will be the man in my life every day from now on. So who better?

No decision you make wil be wrong. It just matters what makes you happiest.

Post # 5
290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would suggest your 2 uncles. I saw plenty of weddings that there were two people walking the bride.

Post # 6
175 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Oh honey I am so sorry.  πŸ™  That just sucks.  No other words for it.


I would for sure say your aunt’s husband – for sure.  He’ll be a great support system and you know he’ll always be there for you AFTER the wedding, and it will be a nice memory.  In addition to him, you could have your other uncle with you, and depending on how advanced his MS is – your brother could help that uncle, or he could be an usher or something.

I hope it all works out – pls keep us posted.

Post # 7
1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

My father passed away in November and my brother is in Afghanistan, and my mother refused. So I had to think long and hard. I considered my step-dad, my grandmother and my uncle. Now that I am about 2 weeks away, I have finally made my decision to walk alone. Fiance will be meeting me halfway down the aisle, but I think this decision is what was best for my family and me.

Post # 8
926 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

((((hugs)))) I’m so sorry you’ve had so much loss during this time in your life πŸ™

It sounds like your second uncle (Aunt’s husband) is the one you feel closest to.  I also have a thing about your wedding party being people who will support you, your marriage and your family during happy times and sad.  It sounds like that uncle is one of those people.


Post # 10
515 posts
Busy bee

I am so very sorry, hugs.

I haven’t yet walked, but I do know that I will be walking alone.

I know it doesn’t help, but those who are missing will be with you in spirit and in your heart. They will be with you every step of the way.

This might sound weird, and I don’t know how you are decorating your aisle, but some people have put a picture of the couple at the end of the each row of chairs… perhaps you could do the same, but with pictures of those you have lost.

Post # 12
2401 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Why not your FI? You could walk half way there by yourself and be escorted the rest of the way. Or, he could meet you at the end of the aisle and walk you all the way up there. You’ll still get your first look moment and you’ll get to be escorted by the person you truly love and care for the most. I think it’s quite romantic.

Post # 13
894 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@ohmybears48:  This is exactly what I was going to say, take a few steps at the top of the aisle by yourself and then have your Fiance come meet you and escort you the rest of the way. No hurt feelings from your family members and I think it would be a very sweet gesture, like showing from here on out he is your rock and the person you can lean on.

Post # 14
570 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@Ej88:  I am SO sorry for the sadness you’ve experienced lately πŸ™ That is very hard to deal with. Your Aunt’s husband sounds like the most reasonable choice- then you will have the support down the aisle from someone who has had the greatest impact on your life of all the choices, and who you know will be heavily involved in your married life. Best of luck, please keep us updated!

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