To wear engagement ring when going for job interviews

posted 1 year ago in Career
Post # 16
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3103 posts
Sugar bee

I read an analysis of why wearing am engagement ring was not a good idea, so I only wore my wedding bamd. I am sure you can google the article.

Post # 17
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

slomotion :  me too, I just started a new job a month ago. I’m 6 months pregnant. They loved my honesty and said I’m the type they want there long term. I go on maternity leave at the end of May and I’m returning to them early next year.

No issues at all with the honesty approach imo

Post # 18
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

Since I don’t take off my engagement ring or my wedding ring off Inwould wear them to interviews 

Post # 19
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Blushing bee

This is a thought that has not even occured to me but it is an interesting topic. While I would love to say same as PP’s about not wanting to work in a company that judges people on their relationship status (or ring), but unfortunately in this climate we have to take what we get and employer has the power.

Unfortunately women do get judged for their relationship status. Engaged -> married -> kids ->losing $$$.  Unfortunately this is the way employers often think eventhough it’s unfair and not necesarily true. It is also recommended to write down in your CV that you are interested in building your career in a way that it becomes apparent that you will not have kids in the near future. That’s why they had to create laws where they are not allowed to ask these questions.

I did some reading on other sites (linked in, huff post etc.) and they recomended women to take off their rings. According to one it gives the interiewer an impression that the woman doesn’t actually need a job (*barf*) or the woman conducting the interview will be jelous (*barf*). Men on the other hand should wear a fake ring since married men are considered more trustworty. 

I think it is a personal choise. I know how hard it is to get a job (any job) so I wouldn’t judge anyone for doing everything they can (unless it is illegal or flat out lying on a serious matter). Not having a ring in interview but wearing it to work is not an issue. It also depends on the industry and place of work.

Post # 20
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Location

I think it depends where you live. Where I’m from no one would ever notice/care about an engagement ring. 

Are you in USA? My understanding is there’s no mandatory maternity leave or healthcare there. Maybe you’re worried that your employer wouldn’t offer you those benefits? I can’t imagine your marital status having any bearing on your job prospects. 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee

slomotion :  I agree 100% with this!!! Since I’ve been engaged, I’ve worn my ring to every interview and have had conversations about my wedding with the interviewer (and they were mostly men).  They were very excited to talk to me about when they got married too.  I’ve never given it much thought.  My ring is part of my life now.

Post # 22
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Helper bee

If you want the job, you should consider not wearing it. I know for a fact I have lost out on at least 1 job because I was engaged. I was even asked in an interview about my status even though this question is very illegal to ask. 

Post # 23
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Daisy_Mae :  Yeahhhh sorry but you’re wrong here. If you don’t think some interviewers absolutely take note of your attire/shoes/jewelry, you’re crazy.

Unfortunately some employers see that engagement ring and automatically start thinking about how much time you’re going to want off for your wedding, if you’re going to start having babies right away, maternity leave, if you’ll quit to be a Stay-At-Home Mom after a year, etc. I think this is even more prevalent in the more male-dominanted industries.

I wouldn’t wear an engagement ring to an interview, personally.

Post # 24
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Bee Keeper

The last job I wore my engagement ring at I got the job.  They shouldn’t be looking at your ring and thinking of why you can’t be hired for that.  

Post # 25
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Busy bee

I know people are saying to be honest and it’s your qualifications that matter but I disagree to some extent. Employers (in some fields at least) do judge you based off your relationship status, your weight, etc. Personally, I am not going to we wearing my wedding band or e-ring when I start job hunting once I graduate in May. The field I’m applying to is extremely competitive, and I don’t want them thinking I’ll be getting pregnant any time soon because that would work against me. 

Post # 26
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2014 - Chicago, IL

I plan on wearing just my wedding ring. I don’t want my engagement ring to be a distraction, but it’s kind of on the larger side and might be considered flashy. I’m going for a tech job, so I don’t know, I just feel like I should look understated.

Post # 27
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I never would have thought to take off my rings for something like this. They’re just a part of my daily wear.

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

Can someone explain why it matters if you wear an engagement ring? Is it because they might think you’ll want time off for your wedding? I don’t really get that, because so many people who are married also just wear that ring. And I don’t even feel like they’d be able to see it well enough to determine if there’s a band or not? When I see someone with a ring, I automatically assume they’re married. 

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I wear my wedding band, but not my engagement ring.  I do not want it to be a distraction and I do not want to be judged by it.   I also do not wear any other flashy jewelry and dress very professionally with a simple blow out. While I would hope that an engagement ring wouldn’t be so judged, I do think people may subconsciously judge it and keep it in mind. 

Post # 30
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Busy Beekeeper

pugmummy87 :  I’ve always worn it. If they chose not to give me the job because of it then I’ll consider myself lucky for dodging that bullet. That said – I also am fortunate that I’m in a high demand profession so it’s not like missing out on one potential job would be a big deal. 

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