(Closed) To Wedding Planner or NOT to hire a wedding planner

posted 5 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper

It depends on what you need them for. Our venue had a coordinator that organized the venue and food, she knew our florist and photographers so they wirked together well. We didn’t need anyone else. But for weddings that are heavily DIY, with setup and tear down as well as many different vendors a coordinator would be very useful.

Post # 3
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Busy bee

I have not hired a wedding planner & feel pretty confident so far. I’ve gotten my dress, venue, DJ, photographer so far picked out without one. There are so many websites (like this one) now days that you can go to for advice and pricing info. I wouldn’t be able to turn over control to a wedding planner & would need to be included in every single decision anyways so why not just do it myself. I am a little concerned with the day of with the flow, making sure vendors arrive on time, etc so I am considering hiring a day of event cordinator for this to take care of just the actual wedding day. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I, also didn’t hire a wedding planner and am doing it all myself. I have hired everyone, a food truck, DJ, officiant, florist, photographer, venue etc. My venue’s owner runs the event the day of so that is nice, but I feel like putting in more time to do it yourself will be rewarding.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2017 - Sea Cider

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christinalred:  just hired a planner who also does decorating and rentals, and let me tell you, this was easily the best money we’ve spent so far. so glad I asked the Bee for help when I did, and that I listened.

my Fiance and I are finally just enjoying being engaged, and letting someone else handle “wedding stuff”.

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I tell all my clients (I’m a wedding photog) that a good planner is the best gift you can give yourself. Even if you don’t need a full planner, a day of coordinator at the very least is a good idea. Family members and friends just don’t cut it. They almost always drop the ball and it becomes more work for your vendors that it’s worth. I’d rather have no one at all, than have a family/friend be the coordinator.

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017 - Country Cottage and Gardens

My venue has a coordinator that doesn’t add anything to the overall cost. They may add her into the venue fee butit doesn’t seem like. I think it comes down to individual preference and styl.e If you’d rather have a hand on everything and do a ton of DIY then it may be less necessary. I would likely still want a day-of coordinator but then that depends on the size of the wedding and your familystyle. Some families are veyr go with the flow and wouldn’t really care about the minor stuff while other groups would be more critical.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

I organize education events for my job, I have hired a planner for partial planning. My fiance didn’t want me to be in planning mode when he looked into my eyes for my vows….I know myself, I need to know that things are getting done to my standards and my vision is being met. If I doublt someone’s ability to follow thru, I would try to double check on them…which I don’t want to do the day of my wedding.

A wedding planner wil be in charge of the little details so I can enjoy the day!!! She will deal with the various vendors the day of, she will move flowers from one location to the other and make sure all my little touches are in place…

Having family help me was going to be a recipe for disappointment. My family is always late-at my sister in laws wedding they were still folding programs as she walked down the aisle. I also didn’t want friends to have to be my plan B…I want my guests to be my guests. I want to enjoy my party and not deal with the little stuff….

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I had a Destination Wedding in Cali.  I live in NYC.  My venue required that we have a planner at least a month prior to our wedding.  I thought this was silly at first, but was so glad I got a planner.  My venue has a coordinator, but a venue coordinator is very different from a wedding planner for a lot venues.  Then venue coordinator only scheduled tasting, answered questions about the space, what’s allowed and what’s not, and whatnot.  My planner found all of my vendors for me, negotiated prices for me, I did some further negotiations, but since she was in industry, she knew which vendor was the best for our budget, reminded me when I have to send out save the dates and invites, drew up all the timelines for me, figured out decor for me, collected all of our gifts, make sure Bridal Party and parents were where they were supposed to be, told all the vendors where they were supposed to and at what time.  I didn’t have to deal with any of that.  I just had to breathe and relax and have fun on my wedding day.  I don’t think I could have done it without her.  I’m not a flower person and wanted to spend under $2500 for flowers, so she figured out with the florists the best flowers for our color scheme and other floral details.  My BMs all loved their bouquets, and I think people thought we must’ve spent a lot more than $2500 on flowers.  Our cake was also her recommendation.  I had probably 10 people tell me that it was the best cake they ever had, and it was super affordable.  Her sister was a make up artist, so she hooked me up with her, so my hair and make up was super affordable too.  I think she must’ve saved me at least $5k and a lot of hassle and frustration.   I think if you’re doing a non-local wedding, wedding planners are very helpful.      

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

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christinalred:  No, we did a partial planner.  Full means she actually goes and meets all your vendors for you on your behalf and signs all your contracts, does your menu tasting for you, cake tasting, and whatnot.  You don’t have to deal with vendors at all.  She is essentially you.  I was in the LA area, her partial planning packages started at $5800, I talked her down to $3600.  

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - Ballroom

I wanted to do all of the planning for my wedding, but had a Coordinator who I paid for “Month-Of” wedding services.  She reviewed all of my contracts with other vendors I had chosen to ensure everything I wanted was taken care of. She did all of the last-minute planning and coordinating with the other vendors, ran the rehearsal and was on site with two assistants the day of the wedding to make sure everything went smoothly.  She also consulted with me on decor, announcements, and other details. Her opinions were invaluable! She actually knew ways to get discounts or cut costs in certain areas.  Friends and family members offered to help with set up or decorating, but I really wanted everyone to feel like they were guests, not staff at the wedding. I trusted her so implicitly that I really had NO worries that day, and really for the weeks leading up to it  I think you definitely need someone to be the point person for the day of the wedding so that you can relax and have a good time!  Prices definitely vary for coordination services, but honestly, it is money well spent.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

We are doing a day-of coordinator. We are about 3 hours away from our venue and have done all of the planning ourselves. Typically this has meant lots of internet research, emails, phone calls, and skype sessions, with pre-planned weekends to meet in person, sample food and cakes, play with decor, etc.

I’ve loved doing all of the planning personally, but it can take a lot of time. However, I heard the day-of coordinator was very valuable, just someone to make sure the day goes smoothly, answer questions, keep vendors running behind the scenes. Seems like the average price was 800-1500, depending on services that coordinator offered.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Cathedral of the Immaculate Conception/The Gallery

I have a month-of coordinator and I’m so glad–I don’t want to be dealing with any last minute details. I want to enjoy our day! If our wedding was out of town though, I’d probably have hired a full coordinator, unless I thought I could go back and forth a lot. There’s just so many details and people to meet with locally, for me, the peace of mind was worth the cost. (I almost wish we had full coordination, I’m so over planning this thing).

I say, if you can afford it, do it.

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