(Closed) To win an argument, have you ever said anything that was over the line?

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

sausage and pasta sounds delish actually. i hate ground beef. it’s too ‘pasta with meat sauce’ boring. 

also, you owned up to your mistake which is awesome. 


Post # 4
1603 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@LadyBlackheart:  I actually don’t think what you said was SO bad, but I think it’s sweet that you both made up so quickly after that.

For what it’s worth, ground sausage is DELICIOUS in spaghetti. I like it soooo much more. Or I did, before I went vegan πŸ˜‰

Post # 5
4160 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I can’t even remember what the argument was about, but last night I called my husband Fugly.  Like 13 times.  I absolutely don’t mean it because he’s the most adorable thing ever, but I’m blaming PMS for this one.  When I saw that he was actually hurt by me saying that, I apologized.


Post # 6
2436 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@LadyBlackheart:  At least you took it back immediately. πŸ™‚ It was a silly argument. πŸ˜€


Although if I can play devil’s advocate, my famous spaghetti is made with sweet italian sausage (either formed into little meat balls, or cooked like ground beef and drained) and it has converted many a ground beef spaghetti maker. πŸ™‚


Fi’s favorite meal on earth is ground beef. His mom isn’t the best cook, so the poor guy grey up with a jar of ragu with ground beef cooke din. πŸ™ I blew his mind with my spaghetti, and now it’s his new favorite. πŸ™‚


So basically, what I’m saying here, is try it sometime (when you’re feeling adventurous, of course! :D)

Post # 7
1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Father\'s Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

Aw don’t feel bad, a lot of us have gone there. There is a difference between going low and going LOW. Like my brother and I were arguing the other day and he tried to “win” the argument by telling me that he hoped I miscarried and that I was a b*#&% (I’m 20 weeks along, btw). Needless to say, he not only did not win that fight, but he has forever changed our relationship. I don’t know if I can EVER forgive him, as he knows that I have had four miscarriages before getting this far in a pregnancy. You owned up to your comment right away and knew it was wrong. My brother on the other hand kept going with the attacks. Big difference!!

Post # 8
3125 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

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@Ryansgirl:  Ouch. 


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@LadyBlackheart:  Definitely not so bad. DH and I have had some pretty heated arguements over the past 10 years and I am sure we have crossed the line but 
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@lillyhere: is right, the part that matters most is owning up to your mistakes! 

Post # 9
2807 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

it wasn’t to win one, it was to stop one. but a couple times, i’ve told him i won’t marry him if he doesn’t stop acting like a child. it worked. he stopped throwing a fit, and calmed down.

Post # 10
644 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@LadyBlackheart:  I don’t think what you said was so bad. Fiance and I have definitely both said things in arguments that were way over the line. I don’t remember my trangressions as much, but I definitely remember the hurtful things Fiance has said. Thankful, I think we’ve kind of outgrown this. We fight much nicer now. We were young and stupid!


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@Mrs. Doily:  That is one of the worst things I’ve ever heard. I thought MY brother was mean. I am SO SORRY he said that to you.

Post # 11
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yes I have said things in the heat of a fight I’m ashamed of. It’s usually dates, “you did the same thing in the spring of 93!” lol

Next time mix ground sausage and ground beef and make meatballs. That’s my kind of compromise.;)

Post # 12
845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@LadyBlackheart:  Aha! Other people fight about food too! We recently had a spat but I didn’t go too far – karma stepped over the line on this one. So he buys really spicy food trying to get me to ‘try new things’. Goes back to the shop to buy me something mild and tucks in to his ‘hot’ food. Couldn’t finish a third of it. Had sweat streaming down his face, and declared it unfit for human consumption. I warmed the rest up for him for breakfast the next day out of spite, he gallantly tried a mouthful and gave up. Spicy food my arse πŸ™‚

Post # 13
9680 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@LadyBlackheart:  I don’t think that was so bad – and to boot, it was true πŸ˜›

Post # 14
6354 posts
Bee Keeper

No, because this actually causes you to lose the argument, even if you would’ve otherwise beeen right, (he won with the “you really want to go there?”) plus he got emotionally stabbed, and now you both have to help fix that wound.

Fiance has done it, with major regrets. He definitely lost the argument but he was more concerned about the stab than the argument anyway once he realized what he said. I’ve always seen this as him blabbing without thinking first, rather than because he thought it would help him get his way or me to agree with his view. He has blabbed without thinking first in other ways too… but when he makes an emotional stab, he tries to make up for it about 10 times over, and doesn’t repeat that particular blab ever again, so I know he means well.

I don’t know why I don’t do the emotional stab. I guess it isn’t tempting for me because I know the consequences after are just going to all be bad. Plus I know he can be hurt deeply in certain ways (he doesn’t seem like it at all, but underneath he secretly really can) and I really like it that he can trust me with his most vulnerable side and know it’s not going to bite him. I’m the only person like that in his life and we both know it. I don’t know if he occasionally stabs because he just can’t control himself, or because he knows I’m strong enough and it won’t cut me as deeply, or maybe both.

Post # 15
12244 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@LadyBlackheart:  Oh, man. That could have gotten bad! Congrats on getting through it calmly and like adults!

I was NOT being adult when I told DH on Valentine’s Day earlier this year “You know, my alcoholic, felon, truck driver Father does Valentine’s Day better than you. He doesn’t pretend that it’s not an important day or a holiday.”

To be fair, he literally decided (by himself) that we weren’t celebrating V-Day… and didn’t tell me. So I had stuff for him, and he was like “So, what are you making for dinner?”. I ended up having a bottle of wine for dinner, and I still don’t know what DH had.

But I went over the line, and I still haven’t appologized. And I should have.

Post # 16
9799 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

I’ve said some stupid things a few times, as long as you immediately apologize I think it’s ok.  Just don’t make it a habit.

FWIW I only use italian sausage when I make spaghetti.  Ground beef is nasty and has no flavor on it’s own.  Like someone else said, why don’t you mix them and make meatballs.

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