(Closed) Toast by the Bride or Groom

posted 7 years ago in May 2011
Post # 3
3068 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We are just letting Father-In-Law do one.

Post # 4
365 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Not a May bride but we having FOB do a “welcome” toast (when we get to reception/prior to starting dinner), Bridesmaid or Best Man and Maid/Matron of Honor each say a quick (two minutes tops) toast after dinner, then Fiance will just say a quick thanks/we appreciate you joinging us type of thing (again 1-2minutes tops) after we cut the cake/start the dancing.  Hope that is not too much talking ha ha!

Post # 5
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

We didn’t do toasts per se, but at the rehearsal dinner I did a thank you and at the wedding my husband did a thank you. Really just like 2 min thing.

Post # 6
5797 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

We’re doing a quick thank you toast right before we cut the cake (MOH and Best Man are doing toasts before dinner)

Post # 7
9029 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I will not be speaking at the reception. I know I will be so full of emotion and wont  be able to say anything coherent. I’m not sure if Fiance wants to give a toast but I doubt it

Post # 8
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Darling Husband did a welcome toast right after we were introduced prior to our first dance. He ended his speech with, “Now if you wouldn’t mind I would like a private moment alone with my wife” and we had our first dance…aww sniff sniff

Post # 10
46589 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Normally the groom responds to the toast to the bride (or the bride and the groom), made by a good friend, a family member or the best man.

His response sometimes includes a toast to the bridesmaids to which the best man responds.

Post # 11
1126 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We’re definitely going to say something, but probably very briefly.  Our toasts are being given by the Maid/Matron of Honor, Best Man, FOG and FOB (all will be short except perhaps my dad’s).  Then we will stand up and say thank you to everyone, etc, but it will probably be under a minute.  And my Fiance hates public speaking, plus I know more of the guests, so I will probably make that speech.

ETA – I know that I have a lot of speeches planned, but I’m looking forward to the toasts so much, and I figure while everyone’s sitting down and drinking, they can deal with 15 minutes of toasts to the bride and groom.

Post # 12
921 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think its nice to do a thank you toast to show your appreciation to your guests for comming, your bridal party, and people working the event.

Post # 13
916 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m not a May bride, but my Future Mother-In-Law is planning on throwing us the reception so I think she will be the one to give the thank you toast. We may or may not chip in to that, but we’ll probably just go around to each table to personally thank everyone for coming and make conversation.  


Post # 15
1493 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@jck2011: At our wedding, we had the best man, Maid/Matron of Honor, and dad speak. My dad lead prayer before dinner. We greeted everyone at the tables after dinner which gave us more time for intimate conversation with our guests beyond the receiving line earlier in the day.

At the rehearsal dinner, we wanted both of the dads to speak, but my Father-In-Law was too shy. Then, it turned into a speech fest. My brother gave a speech about us, then my dad said something nice, and then my Mother-In-Law gave a little speech. We cut my Brother-In-Law from saying anything.

Personally, I’m not fond of when the bride and groom give speeches at the wedding. It just seems a little unnecessary and self serving. By the time of the reception, it’s really about the guests and sharing the day with the guests. You don’t need the bride and groom waxing on about how awesome they think that they are.

Post # 16
4385 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My Fiance is doing it. I might say something with him, but I will be so emotional, I’m not sure I could do it! He’s just going to thank everyone for coming and celebrating with us. He’s going to speak at the end of the meal, during dessert. I think it’s a nice thing to do. 


@brox: Not sure why you would say it’s self-serving to thank guests for coming?

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