(Closed) Toasting Questions

posted 8 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
5889 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

i don’t think a welcoming toast is necessary- do you mean like a “thank you for coming” type deal?  ‘cos in my experience, the bride and groom usually do that regardless of who is paying

Post # 4
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

I’ve never seen the bride or groom speak at a wedding.  Not to say you shouldn’t do it if you want to, but I’ve never seen it before.  Do you have an officiant who will do a blessing?  He could work a welcome into his speech.  I would suggest having your MOH’s do a joint toast.  Then the best men could do a joint toast as well which will help make the shy one feel more comfortable.  Things will also move a lot quicker that way and stop people from getting bored.

Post # 6
7173 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I’m in a similar hosting boat as you – I honestly hadn’t considered a welcome type speech – but I do know what you are referring to.

How big of a wedding are you having and are you having an MC of any sort?  If so, that’s the person that could welcome.  Are you having a grand entrance?

I think it’s more appropriate for the bride and/or groom to thank everyone towards the end of the speeches vs. at the beginning of the reception – but there’s really no ‘wrong’ way to do it.

We are planning to make our entrance and then be seated and our DJ/MC will welcome everyone and then hand the mic over to someone to say a prayer before dinner.  (Or I might throw in a quick speech from one of my friends before dinner is started) and then do a couple in between courses).

Post # 7
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

A toast is not required and many people skip them. If you do have them, don’t force anyone to give them, especially if they are uncomfortable with public speaking or strange crowds.

Post # 10
493 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

We didn’t have a DJ, so we designated the Best Man as the “master of ceremonies”.  Basically he got the toasts started, said a few words, gave his toast, passed the mic around, etc.  Then he also announced the cake cutting and the first dance.  He’s a very outgoing and charming guy though, so we knew he’d be up for it and he did an awesome job.  My father gave a toast, and no, he didn’t ho$t our wedding.  So did the Maid/Matron of Honor, Bridesmaid or Best Man, and several friends and family members shared a few words too.  DH, also thanked everyone for coming on our behalf. 

Post # 12
2532 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We didnt do a welcome toast or anything – just our dads, Best man and Maid/Matron of Honor. You could have your best men and MOHs speak at your rehearsal dinner instead of the wedding if you like. We thought about doing that but didnt need to. But it would save time and it is less pressure for your bridal party members!

Post # 13
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Countless weddings do not have toasts of any kind. Toasts are not required either. Not everyone is comfortable giving toasts, so if you decide to have toasts, let people give them as they wish on the spur of the moment, which is what a toast should be, instead of asking a shy attendant for example to give a toast when you know that he/she does not feel comfortable with public speaking or being in front of crowds of people they don’t know. If the shy attendant (as the example) is asked before the wedding to do this, they may be so anxious with fear of speaking or whatever the issue is that they are not able to do anything else.

At the same time, the toasting period, should you decide to have it, should be kept to a certain time frame and don’t go over that. In addition, if there is anyone you don’t feel comfortable receiving a speech from (a drunk relative or someone who doesn’t know the proper time and place for the story they intend to tell, etc), then make sure that only certain people are allowed the mic. Consult with your dj on how best to do this as they are the professionals.

Post # 14
5494 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

I really when there is a short welcome at the very beginning of the reception. to me this is the equivalent of someone welcoming you when you go to their house for a dinner party.

I don’t think it has to be long or elaborate or anything.  but i think it’s awkward if you just enter, sit and then the meal is served without any acknowledgement of its significance.  does that make sense?  I think something as short as the bride and groom just saying thank you, (after the applause), that you are excited to celebrate with everyone and welcoming them to please enjoy the meal.  then later toward the end of the reception you guys can do a longer, more formal toast/speech.

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