(Closed) Today, I decided to leave

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 123
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

is there any way you can stay in a hotel/motel until you can get to your moms on friday?as @Future_MrsProfessor said, I would urge you not to say goodbye to him. Leave without him knowing, and then just…disappear. Ive gotten away from a potentially dangerous ex before who had made threats and been previously violent,and the best thing I did for my safety was to leave when he was out of the house, go to my mums and left him a short simple note telling him I had left and wasnt coming back. I didnt let him know where I was going or if he would ever hear from me again.

Honey,its not just about you getting out,its about you getting out SAFELY! You are the priority here, everything else can be dealt with later,right now make yourself as safe as possible and I wish you all the love,best wishes in all the world!

Post # 124
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

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@happyface:  Oh my goodness, you’re in my thoughts and prayers Happyface. You are one of my favorite posters and I REALLY admire you for getting out of this relationship: it really sounds like the best POSSIBLE choice for you right now! I’m really going to think about you as hopefully all the scary legal stuff resolves itself and you’re able to get out and start over! Hugs hugs hugs!!!

Post # 126
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

You are a strong and wise woman to do this. May you be blessed in every way.

Post # 127
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687 posts
Busy bee

You are doing the right thing. Continue to tell yourself this every day for the next month at least. It will be really difficult but don’t tell him you are leaving until after you’ve gotten all your stuff out of the house and are safely at your new location. Good luck and we are all here to support you!

Post # 128
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

Good luck..

Post # 129
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m so sorry. 🙁  I have to agree with the other bees, though.  It really does sound like you made the wisest choice.  A man who gets you into legal trouble can only mean bad news for the rest of your life.  I hope you can get your life back on track once he is gone.  Good luck and stay strong!

Post # 130
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Helper bee

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@happyface:  If you want to talk about the charges or anything for that matter, you can PM me. I’m a lawyer (even if I don’t practice in your jurisdiction). Only if you trust me to keep it confidential, that is.

Post # 131
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

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@happyface:   Just now saw your updates.  Hang in there, girl.  I don’t know which thread you’re talking about, either, where you felt unwelcomed, but I for one enjoy seeing your Happy Face around here and would miss you if you go. 

The main most important thing is for you to stay safe.  You seem confident and strong and you’re taking the right steps.  Gradually, quietly and discreetly leaving an abuser is the wisest thing to do.  You must back away slowly and carefully, as though trying to escape a rabid dog, because in a certain sense that’s what an abuser is; you don’t want him to feel threatened or startled or alarmed because then he’ll lash out and attack you.  Most abused women are harmed when attempting to leave their abuser, not while they’re staying with him.  He will not want to let you go.

Please be careful, my thoughts and prayers are with you and I’ll be checking in for more updates just to know you’re safe.

Post # 132
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Sounds like you have made up your mind. Good luck! I hope it goes well and you find the right guy who doesn’t become the wrong guy someday! <3

Post # 133
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

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