(Closed) Today I got beat up….(warning some graphic PIP)

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 3
3011 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Yeowch!  I’m so sorry to hear!  Hope you’re feeling better soon.

Post # 4
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

OMG!!  I bet you are feeling so many emotions and the pain itself is probably unbearable.  I am a Speech-Language Pathologist working with several children on the Autism Spectrum in an Elementary school (grades K-5).  I’ve never encountered physical agression like you’ve encountered, but I have had my hair pulled, been bitten, hit, had tables tossed over towards me, and have had my breasts squeezed many times in the past. 

One of the questions that I was originally going to ask was what you thought the function of the behavior was, but you had already said that it didn’t seem like there was a trigger.  How does the child communicate his basic wants/needs/feelings?  Lastly, have you ever been trained in NCI? 

BIG HUGS (but, soft ones)!!!!!!!!!!

P.S. You might want to consider removing the pics with your face on here.  I would hate for his parents to come across them “somehow” and use them against you after you’ve cared for him for so long.

Post # 5
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

Oh my!  I really hope that your boss is able to get his into a residential home soon.  I understand that the child has a disability, but if he’s being aggressive towards you (and potentially his younger siblings), alternative arrangements really need to be made ASAP.

Post # 6
588 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

OMG! I hope you’ve gone to the hospital already. Your foot looks serious. I know it’s hard to see this happen to the family but your health and safety is first and foremost.

Post # 8
3788 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

There is something called a trigger warning that blogs use to warn readers about unsettling content rather than surprise them with something awful and painful or that could cause a reaction. You could maybe try putting a few line breaks in and a warning at the top so people who thought this would be only a story know not to scroll any farther and can avoid the pics. Or maybe put “pictures in post” in your subject line? No offense, but I was not prepared for that and I would not have opened this post at all had I known.

But since I’m here, that sucks. Hope your healing is easy and that this little boy gets the help he needs.

Post # 9
642 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I have had kids kick, pull hair, slap, grab a boob, spit, puke, cuss, scream, chase me with a bat, and other stuff that is terrible, but nothing this bad. It sounds like the mom is making the right decision and thankfully it was you and not one of the siblings or a complete stranger. I hope you heal quickly and there aren’t any more situations before you or him leave. Kids in homes can live very happy lives, I know it is hard on the parents, and the rest of the family, but it can be a happy life where there are more people “like him” and professionals that can make his life pleasant while safe for him and others.

Post # 10
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

Oh that’s awful. Poor you 🙁 What a crappy day beyond belief. You are fantastic for working so hard with kids who need you though and putting yourself at risk for stuff like this every day. ((hugs))

Post # 11
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

@SoonToBeeMrsD:  I’m guessing you had no time to get him into one of the holds that you were taught.  Sometimes things happen so quickly, that you have no time to react.  If you’re going to continue working with this child through August, I would DEMAND that you’re taught NCI (Nonviolent Crisis Intervention Training) immediately!  You have to be able to protect yourself and the other kiddos in the household.  I am hopeful that you heal quickly and his parents make a decision to find him more intensive treatment.  Best Wishes!!

Post # 12
1325 posts
Bumble bee

I am SO sorry! Are you going to be able to take

some time off? It looks like you could use some for healing time.

My mother used to work in a foster home for adults with mental retardation and severe autism. She eventually had to quit due to repeated injury from one of the adults she took care of. 🙁

If she puts him in a home will you still leave?

Post # 13
5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1999

@dcdt212:  I agree…her foot looks serious. 

Post # 14
179 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010


   I’ve worked in this field for years, and have had my fair share of bruises, scratches, bites, hair pulls, slaps, punches, etc. It used to get pretty bad come summer time and I tried to wear shorts/tanktops while out with DH— he used to get some pretty nasty looks from people (as they obviously thought he was causing the bruising up and down my arms and legs).

   Putting a kid in residential can be pretty emotionally draining on the parents, and on all of the people that care about the kid. A family that I know pretty well just went through this, after they tried literally EVERYTHING to be able to keep the boy at home- they even bolted a big wooden desk into their dining room floor to try to maintain him there when he was having a tantrum. I think in the end its very important to remember that putting him in a residential home will ultimately benefit the child, and that they would still be able to visit him and even bring him home for weekend visits. Does he currently go to a school that specializes in autism?


Post # 16
937 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

oh man!! OUCH!! your foot looks really bad… how did it get like that? (sorry… just saw that you said he stomped on your foot)

I hope everything works out 🙁

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