Post # 1
Coming home today my FI and I were discussing a get together this Sunday with his horrible friend and his family. I’ve posted about them before, they are incredibly rude and completely inconsiderate.
Anyway, I dropped my FI at work and was driving home. On the way home I practically had a problem with anyone on the road who cut in front of me or was too slow to make a green light. I was already so frustrated about seeing these inconsiderate people this weekend and anyone inconsiderate on the road made me more mad.
So entering my block of units there were no parking spots left in my usual place so continued down the back where one of the other unit residents had parked his car across both of the only spare spots in the lot washing his car. He didn’t want to move and directed me to park into a smaller spot in between the fence and the building. Not enough room for me to get into this spot without doing a 50 point turn.
I rolled down my window and said that he was being incredibly inconsiderate parking across two spots to wash his car when there was plenty of other room in front of closed garages to wash his car. Anyway after telling him he was being so inconsiderate and that I couldn’t park my car where he was directing me too he said ‘sorry but I just assume everyone is as great as driver as I am”. I proceeded to tell him that monopolising two spots just proves what a bad driver he is. I rolled up my window and kept muttering how awful he was being. And now I am so ashamed of myself for reacting to him in such a volitle way.
We live in a block of 27 units where people are constantly parking in front of the front door not giving you room to walk in. Not to mention the constant rubbish/furniture dumping in front of the building. So today I snapped!
I can’t stand selfish, rude, inconsiderate people. I always try to be mindful of others and unfortunately I don’t get the same back.
Have I really crossed the line? Should I seek him out to apologise? I’m too ashamed to tell my FI.
Post # 3
Ehh, unless you were really yelling, or swearing at him, then I wouldn’t worry about it honestly. He WAS being inconsiderate, pointing that out doesn’t make you mean.
Have you told your FI that his friend bothers you? Maybe you could skip the get together, or take a mutual friend if you have one, so you have someone to talk to?
Post # 4
Oh gosh, I know how you feel. A few weeks ago FI and I got to our car and there was a cart someone left in the parking lot right next to it. I wasn’t mad that it was blocking the door, I was in a bad mood and just not tolerating people being rude by leaving their carts out. Then I see that there is a lady in her car next to us and she was the one who left the cart. I looked at her and said, “the NERVE of some people!” and put her cart away. I felt bad afterward that I did it. That’s not like me.
So I get what you are feeling. I definitely don’t think that you should normally do things like this to people (obviously), but mostly for your own safety. You never know how angry the other person will get with you. You shouldn’t yell at people, of course, but at the same time I don’t think its wrong to tell people when they are being inconsiderate. Some people are inconsiderate and just don’t care, but I do know quite a few people who are inconsiderate because they just don’t know better (they started doing it because somebody else did and have made a habit of not thinking about how it might affect other people). I’m sure there are things I have done where it didn’t cross my mind that it could be bothersome to someone else.
Post # 5
@smileyme: Nahhh, just go on about your business. Everyone’s entitled to have a hissy fit now and then. Hey, at least it was some stranger on the receiving end…and not your FI.
Post # 6
@smileyme: well maybe if you see him again you could say sorry I was having a bad day and shouldnt have snapped and leave it at that. Thats what I would do but i alway suffer from guilt if I do things like that and feel bad if I over react. 🙂 (which is easy to do when you are having a bad day).
Post # 7
If it was another man who had said that to him it would have been a non issue, but when we do it we’re so ashamed/afraid of being a “bitch” and feel the need to apologize. He can find another place to wash his car!
Post # 8
Thanks for your responses; its made me feel a little better. I just don’t understand why people do the things they do. Basic courtesy seems to be missing from society these days.
I have told my FI about his “friend” and I think he see’s it too but having been friends with him for over 20+ years he’s finding it difficult to detach; I’m guessing. I’ve never told my FI to stop associating with this friend but it’s bloody tempting.
What a week it’s been; I’ve gone from a high after finding my dress last weekend to coping abuse from my mum over the kitchen tea. Yep, what a week.