(Closed) Today I was called a racist.

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 151
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2251 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

My German Shepherd dogs are racist and sexist: they aggressively bark at all males and severely bark and lunge  at large black males. This must be their White supremacist Nazi heritage,  lol! 

Post # 152
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9527 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

tagerosan:  that’s odd. We have two german shepards and they do not bark at different genders or race. Their trainer who they adore, respect more than me in fact, is African American. He is amazing with them. Not sure what the factors are in it but they have regularly been taken to doggy day camp and training since little pups, people of all walks of life and backgrounds are there. They bark at other dogs. That’s it

Post # 153
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

theatrejulia:  lol mine are the opposite.  They don’t bark at dogs,  but they both don’t like human males except family and close friends. But I’m ok with that,  because I live in the country and don’t want my dogs to  be friendly with strangers.

Post # 154
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9527 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

tagerosan:  getting of topic and thread jacking, sorry.  I should clarify. People they meet in public, dog park, petsmart, on walks, they are friendly. Come into our home or property is a totally different story. 

Post # 155
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

theatrejulia:  that’s what i meant also,  lol!  We should start a doggie thread instead.  This one is getting old anyways 🙂

Post # 156
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592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I just stumbled upon this and thought I’d give my two cents. I see racism all the time since I have a black friend and a muslim friend. Constantly people stare at them, make disgusted faces (yes this actually happens) utter remarks when they think you can’t hear, it’s truly very sad our society is still thinking this way.. But I also think we only see racism as white people vs black people, and not the other way around.. The first time I met my black friends other friend group, they uttered hurtful “white” comments about me before they even knew me. I know them now, and they apologized for how they originally acted towards me and , but it was a real eye opener to have the roles reversed in this situation.. To hear hurtful comments coming from another race group when they don’t even know you as a person and judge you based on your skin.. It stings, and it made me view what they go through on a daily basis totally differently. I don’t know how they do it and jsut ignore it. Really gave a new meaning to “put yourself in their shoes for a day”.

With that being said, I think it’s aso harmful to loosely throw around the term racism at every little thing. If we start using the term for little acts that don’t have any intention of racism or any racism at all in the actions, we are just making the word mean less. I know if someone called me a racist instead of an asshole everyday, I would start just not taking the word seriously if it was being used carelessly and for no good reason.

I think we all jsut need to be more aware of our own actions. Everyone was created equal, no one is above another person. 

 

Post # 157
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327 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Presque Isle

I don’t understand why we would close this thread. Because it makes you uncomfortable? Discussions like this need to happen. 

Post # 158
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1457 posts
Bumble bee

KinkyOrange:  That’s fine and dandy, but your experiences aren’t reflective of the community as a whole. So to say to someone, especially a PoC, what they should and should not find offensive isn’t helping anyone. Also all of her replies have been rude as hell so… that had something to do with it

Post # 159
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7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2013 - UK

minniegrace:  My point was that the bee is (theoretically) a free site open to people of all nationalities and backgrounds. However, there is a tendency to assume that all posters are middle class Americans. To be fair, most posters are indeed middle class Americans, so it’s not always a faulty assumption. However, I think that people who don’t fall into this group sometimes get pretty short shrift here, and I don’t think it’s fair to attack PPs who might have a very different life experience. To mention “experiences reflective of the community” is, I think, also problematic, because it sort of implies that people who do not hold views common to the majority of (middle class, American) posters should hold their peace.

I can remember joining here and having some really “WT… actual… F” moments where I had no clue whether or not other posters were deliberately being offensive to me, or what I might have said which was so offensive to them. Maybe PP is having a similar moment? Bear in mind we know nothing about her… how do we know she isn’t non-white herself, and offended at the terminology used for precisely that reason?

Post # 160
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1457 posts
Bumble bee

KinkyOrange:  My point is that you shouldn’t dictate what people should and shouldn’t find offensive. Nobody here is trying to tell you guys that you shouldn’t find the term offensive if that’s what your experiences have taught you. But to say “well you guys are wrong, you should definitely find it offensive because X Y and Z” is not helpful. We don’t share those views because we don’t share your experiences.

ETA: Sorry if you feel that non-Americans get the shaft here, no one is trying to make you feel that way. No one would be jumping on HappySky7 if she sounded like she was coming from a place of understanding. Just wanted to throw that out there

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