(Closed) Today I was called a racist.

posted 4 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 31
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280 posts
Helper bee

Trevor.Philips:  This is 100% bull shit. 

My dogs bark at white people. I’m white, my family is white, and I have white friends. Does this mean I’m racist against white people? No. 

You are just fueling part of the problem.

Post # 32
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54 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

becomingsumner:  Doesn’t mean you’re racist. Maybe deep down you just don’t like those people as much as you think you do.

P.S. There’s no such thing as racism against white people.

Post # 34
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2014

Trevor.Philips:  There could be a grain of truth to that as well, I suppose, though it could be purely coincidental. We just moved, but the majority of my dog’s lives have been spent living in majority black areas. I get nervous around anyone walking near me when I walk my dogs alone, especially at night, and it just so happens that the vast majority of people that are walking around in the neighborhood are black, or at least appear darker when it is night time. I suppose they could have picked up on that. 

Post # 35
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346 posts
Helper bee

goodriddance88:  You know, I generally stay away from politically charged posts and until this comment I was sympathetic to your situation. But quite frankly maybe there was some truth to the driver’s comment, or maybe an action you took led the driver to utter that particular comment. 

Frankly, I realize my comment may sway against popular opinion, but as a black woman who attended a predominately white university, lives in a predominantly white neighborhood and has a very pale (read white) fiancé I realize the outward manifestation of racism takes many forms aka cutting someone off while driving, or the holding your purse or guy tighter until your fingers go numb or that towel situation that was mentioned earlier. I’ve realized these situations generally happen because of my skin color and not because of my personality.

The sad part is I could go on and on and on. Maybe that guy  was a jerk, who knows.

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

HappySky7:  ChrissyMary9515:  But when people of color call a white person racist as a generic insult, is calling THEM racist really accurate? And more importantly, is it helping fight racism? I feel that it doesn’t help fight racism, and that ignorant is a better word.

The thing is, if you’re a white person living in a country where you benefit from white privilege, you need to be aware of that privilege. If it would never even occur to you that other drivers would treat you a certain way because of the color of your skin, that may even be a symptom of your privilege. If you want to fight racism, you need to be aware of how it benefits you, so we can change the whole system until it’s fair for everyone.

Was this man being an ignorant asshole? Yes. But was he being racist? Well there’s the whole question of whether a person of color can in fact be racist. Personally, I’m not sure. But saying “no he’s the racist one!” isn’t helping anyone, in my opinion, it’s adding to the ugliness in the world. And if he is racist, can you blame him? If I was statistically more likely to get pulled over every time I drove because of the color of my skin, I’d be pretty pissed off about it, and if I was less educated (quite possible if I was a person of color, there’s some more privilege for you!), I might channel it in some pretty fucked up ways. I feel sorry for this asshole.

TL;DR: If you don’t want ignorant assholes to accuse you of being racist because they dislike something you did or didn’t do, fight racism in all forms, so it can become less of an issue, and they’ll be better educated and less pissed off in general and therefore less likely to be an asshole.

Post # 39
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

Trevor.Philips:  This is the dumbest, most argument inducing thing I’ve ever heard on here. My dog is an ASSHOLE. And to be completely honest, he’s just scared of everything and everyone. He has major behavioral issues for which we have saught professional help. There were 2 teens one WHITE and one black that he was barking at.

I looove dogs and agree that they can be super smart and intuitive, but on NO level am I racist and ergo, per your incredibly lame theory, neither is he. Now, if he is as intuitive as you think he is, maybe, just maybe he was barking at those teens because he knew one of them was going to pull a jerk move and throw the race card at us. 

Post # 40
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

So maybe the guy was just a jerk or asshole.  I guess he has road rage issues.  There are lots of assholes driving where I live.  I don’t see how that is so upsetting to you thatyou’re dwelling on it.  It was some random road-rage filled driver.  I would have just said/thought “asshole” and moved on with my day.

By The Way you can’t be racist against white people. But you can have prejudices or descriminate.

Post # 41
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Trevor.Philips:  I’m sorry, but your comment about dogs barking at difference races, because the owner is on some level uncomfortable is absolutely ridiculous.  My husband and I adopted a 1 1/2 year old dog from the local shelter about 4 1/2 years ago.  The first night we had her, she barked and lunged and two different individuals, who were not of the same ethnicity as my husband and I.  We were horrified.  Who knows what her previous owners taught her, but we didn’t blame our dog.  Fast forward several years, and we still have a wonderful dog who we have worked very hard at socializing.  Daily park trips, walks, play dates with other dogs, etc.  While she has gotten better, there is still one particular ethnicity that she always barks at (and ignores everyone else).  We are 100% baffled by this.  One particular person is a sweet old lady that walks around our apartment complex.  To imply that our dog has this issue because on some level “we” have the same feelings is hurtful and borderline offensive. 

I will say this is the internet and I may have taken your comment WAY out of context.  If I did, I apologize. 

Post # 42
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280 posts
Helper bee

RedHeadKel:  lol “My dog is an ASSHOLE”…I can’t deny that about my dogs either lol

kes18:  Okay, well there are lots of things on here that people are bothered about that a lot of us don’t get upset about and they dwell on. That’s not the point. She’s here to just vent, and we’re here for support. That guy was a dick, we get it. But it stuck with her. People are rude to me on here all the time, and sometimes it feels personal even if they don’t know me and they’re wrong. Just because you feel something isn’t bothersome doesn’t mean she feels the same.

Post # 43
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Buzzing bee

Momemts like that, reflect on the fact that there are no racial slurs that can be hurled at you because you are white. The worst verbal violence related to your skin color that can inflicted on you is calling you ‘racist’, which is only a bother when you can’t argue against it. The word doesn’t  dehumanize you or threaten violence against you. 

Post # 44
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1444 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

buzzinbee:  Please see my last comment.

I know everyone means well, but we need to be aware of our privilege ❤️

Post # 45
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

JsDragonfly:  maybe your dog’s previous owners were of that ethnicity and abusive? I’ve heard that theory tossed around for a few “racist” rescue dogs I’ve met.

Speck_:  hear, hear!

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