Post # 1
I’m so glad I’ve found this site! I thought I was the only one who was being driven to distraction by other people’s weddings!
Boy and I are about to celebrate being Boyfriend and Girlfriend for 6 years. We’re having a weekend away, in a cottage, in the middle of nowhere. It’ll be so nice to just spend some time together playing house for a couple of days.
We don’t live together normally at the moment. We’ve discussed this and we’re both happy with how it’s going – We’re ready to commit to each other, but we both have stuff we want to do before we settle into the real world. We’ve given ourselves a year to get it done, and logically, I don’t think he’s going to go popping any questions before we’ve started building our house. Which is at least a year away!
But everybody else seems to be expecting it to happen any minute – my crazy Anut and my Mother keep asking me when they can buy hats, HIS friends keep asking us when we’re getting married and MY friends keep checking my left hand as if there’s supposed to be something there! All of which wakes up the little voice in my head which is like a kid in the back saying “are we there yet?” Which drives me to look at wedding websites and think about my tea-length dress with the red petticoats and the cupcakes and the awesome platinum and carbon-fibre wedding rings, etc etc etc.
I wish there was some way of saying to him “please tell me you aren’t so I can relax and enjoy my weekend, but don’t spoil the surprise if you are!”
At this rate, I should be enroling in a basket weaving class, not thinking about not thinking about weddings!
Post # 3
Just try not to listen to what others say. I know family and friends can get you thinking about things you never thought of! My aunt constantly asks me have I got any wedding ideas and such! I’m like geez, we’ve been together a year, let it marinate.(Although we have decided we will, but no one else needs to know that!LOL)
Have a good time at your weekend away and Don’t Think About It!LOL
Post # 4
Thanks MsMamaBear. It’s nice to know others are suffering everyone elses expectations too. In the end I just asked him if he had anything important planned for the weekend. His answer was “what, like wether it’s white gold or platinum?….If I was I wouldn’t tell you and if I wasn’t, I still wouldn’t tell you, so no matter what I say, YOU’RE none the wiser.” I chose to take that as a no, but I’m no better off. Damn him and his riddles!
You know, sometimes, I sort of like waiting. It’s like every special occasion has an extra kick to it. When he finally does ask, I think I’ll miss that. If I can just stop feeling dissapointed when that’s not it!
Post # 5
Oooh confusing! Anyway, even if asks, you don’t have to get married straight away. Have and enjoy a long engagement and carry on as you are now. See the engagement as a commitment to the future.
Where in the UK are you by the way? I’m in Manchester- there aren’t many UK based people on these boards.
Post # 6
I know this is not going to help, but his riddles sound very much like the kind of thing my husband said before we went off to the Maldives for a couple of weeks, where he proposed to me on the first night!!! Sounds like it’s on the cards sooner rather than later!
I live in Warwick, England! good to see other brits on here!
Post # 7
@JoeyEmma that’s exactly how I see it. I think he sees it differently though. When we’re asked THAT annoying question (so do you think you two will get married?) he usually says yes….so technically…..but we’re not….so….Anyway. *shrug*
@Hanmay, I sort of thought that when he said it. I know it’s definitely on his mind – he’s brought the subject up on his own a few times, and he’s used the word ‘soon’ in relation to the engagement question.
I’m based not far from Manchester over in Wigan, and I went to uni not far from Warwick in Cov. Small world, eh!