(Closed) Today is our 5 year anniversary, but I’m so sad :(

posted 11 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Aww, I’m sorry you feel bad today.  Fiance doesnt rememeber any dates at all… his sister has always had to remind him of any familys birthday.  He’s lucky mine falls on a holiday, or else he probably wouldn’t remember that either – I joke about it all the time that its probably half the reason he’s with me.  He has no clue the date of our first date was, or when he proposed, and has already told me that if I dont remind him of our wedding anniversay, he probably wont remember that either.  Oh well, luckily for him, I don’t do much to really celebrate anniversaries either, its usually just another day to me.  But I’m sure that when he forgets, or doesn’t really think about it on that one day… its just the male brain.  He does care and love you everyday… I’d like it more if he just had random days here and there where he did something special to show his love, rather than on a holiday or date where he’s ‘supposed’ to.

Post # 33
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Great news about the roses! Two dozen would look magnificent. Now shower him with love or his favourite meal or treat him with something that he really, really likes… nothing like a bit of reinforcement to help him remember it next year. 😉

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

READ THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES BOOK!!!!!! Mine is gifts (so like, a card to me is the ultimate acknowledgement) while his are different (tie for physical touch and and words of affirmation) so to him a massage and telling me happy anniversary would be enough. The book helps us communicate how we feel to the other in a way they’d best REALLY appreciate it. I think you’d get a lot from it. You can take the quiz online too, just google it!

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - Tannery Pond at the Darrow School

I totally understand bc Mr TM’s idea of a romantic anni date for our 5-year was to suggest watching football at a bar…You can imagine how well that went over.  His excuse was that he thought our wedding date was now our anniversary which I’ll give him but still!! I was mad!! So I get what you’re feeling and I’m sorry! 

Post # 37
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I’m so glad he sent you roses to work!!!

Post # 38
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Helper bee

I have been with my Fiance since 2001- nearly 9 years. We have NEVER celebrated our anniversary. He still proposed and wants to marry me. So I don’t think our celebrating or not celebrating our anniversary is symbolic of his love for me. That is just my personal opinion and you obviously feel different. Maybe you are just overly sensitive right now. It is annoying when the man you love doesn’t get it! Trust me– this is not the first or last time he will inadvertently upset/hurt you. Men, sometimes, just don’t get it, no matter how many times you tell them.

Try to focus on the other good stuff he does. Sometimes in the wedding planning we start looking at the relationship under a microscope just to be sure, that we’re sure.. It’s normal. However, if you thought about calling off the wedding because of it, you may be setting yourself up for disappointment in your marriage. Men are very different from women, and you can’t expect him to be/think/act like you—as a woman– would. It is just not realistic.

Give him crap for forgetting/not doing something to celebrate it, then move on.

Hugs.

 

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